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writes:im 14 and my gf broke up with me not too long ago, its middle school so thats to be expected, but i miss having someone to hug and kiss and just relax with. the thing is she was my first girlfriend and we were only together for about a week, so im not too confident ill have much luck in asking out another girl, so i dont know what i should do, i really like a girl in my algebra class, we get along well when we talk, and she laughs at my jokes, but i just cant get up the courage to tell her that i like her. what should i do?
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Do you have a friend who is in a relationship? You say your confidence is almost non-existent, so maybe you guys can double-date? You with that girl from algebra class? It's more fun that way and a better option starting out; not as much pressure on the two of you to "get things right" and it will boost your confidence. And you say that she said she doesn't want a boyfriend. Well, either she said that to avoid the uncomfortableness with the others or not, but the double-date idea works well there, too, because it's not technically a "date-date" with just you and her; it's the two of you hanging out with a couple friends. Or maybe the double-date doesn't have to be with a couple who's dating - perhaps your good buddy and her good friend can join you guys, that way she knows someone else besides you and it's not as awkward for her? Just some ideas. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question MonksDaBomb, what youre saying kinda makes sense, but i have an anxiety disorder and i get really depressed so i dont know what to do, i really want a serious relationship with this girl, but like i said my confidense is almost nonexistant, im paranoid that all the advice im getting from my friends is just to see me fall flat on my face, my mom cant keep anything i say private so i refuse to talk to her, i look decent and im friendly BUT GODDAMMIT IM SOO AWKWARD!!! I CAN BARELY TALK TO ANYONE WITHOUT SAYING SOMETHING STUPID!!! WHEN I FINALLY GOT A GIRLFRIEND A HUGE WEIGHT WAS LIFTED OFF MY SHOULDERS, I WAS DOING BETTER IN SCHOOL, MY STRESS WAS GONE, I WAS HAPPY, BUT NOW IM MISERABLE!!! weve been friends for two years and one time one of my idiot friends made a jokingly asked us if we were dating and she said that she didnt want a boyfriend, that made me feel terrible but i started joking about it with her and we both laughed, but i still felt horrible. i really need some advice, and if anyone says "youre just 14" thats not gonna help atall.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (21 January 2010):
Sorry about your breakup. Are you sure you're not just thinking of this girl in your class as like a rebound? You miss having someone around and immediately want to be with someone else. Be careful there....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): You're only 14...
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