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writes:met what i thought was the perfect guy (im assuming im talking on behalf of a lot of girls lol) he was meeting me all the time texting, ringing then i went and blew things by being a little needy i hadnt heard from him for like 16 hrs so being stupid i texed him and asked him if i did sumthing to annoy him, he texed me back the next day telling me how he slept cuz he works overnight sumtimes which i know is true so i felt like kicking myself. But i just want to know have i ruined my chances? i really really like him and i dont want to come on too strong for him today he called into my work and he briefly chatted to me but i looked awful no make up scraggy hair lol and i havent heard from him again... has he had enough or does he think im needy... dont worry im not going to contact him im leaving it up to him but i just wanted to no what use thought.. am i wasting my time or should i just wait it out?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 You know, there is a saying that goes "you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person." I truly believe that and I would also add that you cannot do something which you think is wrong (texting, being needy, etc) if this guy is for real and likes you genuinely.
You might get advice telling you back off and ignore him and play games. It doesn't work. It only serves to keep you in a state of wondering what's going on and confuse you even more. Having said that, don't go overboard either. Put yourself in his shoes and see if what you're doing is reasonable. If he feels about you the way you feel about him, an extra text or phone call here or there is not going to ruin anything.
If you think you've overdone things then take it easy and slow down. Don't ask a guy what's wrong...if there's something wrong he'll tell you. But if he's the right guy, not much will scare him off, trust me.
So take it easy, relax and let things pan out slowly. There is no need to rush. You've made the effort, now let him take some action. If he's the right one, he'll stick around.
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reader, Joeyxxox +, writes (25 March 2010):
 i think you may be over-thinking things a little bit, if he wasn't interested in you he wouldn't be coming into your work just to see you.
maybe you should ease off abit, you don't want to end up pushing him away.
Just keep doing what you're doing, wait for him to contact you, if he doesn't maybe send him a text in a couple days asking how he is or something and he if doesn't reply just leave him to it!
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