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Being blackmailed! Husband cousin taping me having an affair

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Question - (1 January 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 27 January 2010)
A female India age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi, I am a pretty and sexy 25yr old girl, married for 3years. It was an arranged marriage and my husband was not able to satisfy me sexually. This forced me to have an affair. Whenever my husband is away(he travels a lot, sometimes for weeks) my boyfriend and I have sex. A couple of months ago, my husband's 14 year old cousin brother, who came to live with us,caught me having sex with my boyfriend.I told him that his brother dint love me and I wanted to be loved, that's why I have a bf. I begged him not to tell my husband and I will do anything for him. He asked me to stop seeing my bf and he will not tell my husband, as he loves me. I hugged and kissed him and agreed. Ever since he saw me having sex he changed. He would search for excuses to touch me, hug me.I ignored it as I was scared. One day he told me he loved me and wanted to see my happy. he said i have the right to be happy. He said i can continue my affair and he wont tell my husband. he sweared he wont tell a soul. My bf can easily come home since he was at home no one will suspect why he is coming. I was happy and dint suspect a thing. he then told me he wanted to touch my boobs. He said he is just curios and wants to know how it feels. he said even if i refuse, he will not tell anyone and she can continue. I initially refused. He then said i told him i would do anything for him. If he is not telling her hubby, to make her happy, then she should also make him happy. I got greedy and pitied on him and agreed. At first i thought, this way everyone will be happy, i get to continue my affair, my husband doesn't know anything and he also get his share of fun. This continued for a couple of days, my bf would come and the cousin got to touch my boobs. Later i found out he did this so he can tape me having sex with my bf and watch us. Then one day he told me to strip as he wanted to see me naked. I refused, he said if my bf can play with her boobs why cant he. I then found out he was watching us. He showed me a pictures and video's of me and boyfriend having sex. He told me if i refused he will post the video's online. I agreed and had sex with him. Now i have sex with whenever he wants and do whatever he says. sometimes when his friend is coming over he would ask me to wear short and sexy dresses. He is now going back home and has told me that he wants to have a threesome before going back home. And when he is gone, he wants me to strip for him on a webcam and have cyber sex. For the threesome he wants me to seduce his friend, the one who used to come home.

I got used to having sex with him and sometimes enjoyed it also. I can continue to have sex with him but i cant have sex with his friend. I am afraid, If I don't do what he asks he will tell my husband and post the video's online. That will ruin my life.

He knows i can't go to the police and i can't tell anyone. Help me i don't know how to get out of this mess. If my husband finds out he will kill me. I only see two options, either my husband kills me or continue to do as he says. I do not want to have sex with his friend. i dont want to be his puppet.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010):

either the girl is very stupid or the boy is very cunning or the girl is a slut.

From my guess the girl is a slut who likes sleeping with young boys. I dont know what is it with girls nowadays getting attracted to young boys....

Go fuck the kid as thats what u want to do, you whore.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010):

i agree, part of the soft porn stories.

i am getting concerned with all the sexual stories coming from that part of the world. for a nation who holds itself to apparent high regard of marriage and fedility, these stories are shocking. or mere fantasy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010):

ha ha ha...this is a typical Indian fantasy story! People, pls don't get fooled by this crap!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010):

hi kalel,

thanks for your help. I agree that the cousin won't be able to tell my husband, but how do I stop him from posting the video online? he has a video of me and boyfriend having sex. I do not have any proof to tell my husband what his cousin is doing. I am in a mess and i do not have any option aside from doing as i am told. He has already posted a nude picture of me with my face hidden, as I refused to let his friend see me naked. Now, his friend has already seen me naked, was forced to leave the bathroom door open while I was taking a bath and he walked in. Had I refused he would have posted the picture with my face visible. Now his friend comes everyday and keeps on staring at my boobs and has also started flirting with me.

When I told the cousin i cant have sex with his friend as he is a kid.He told me either I have sex with his friend or with 5 adults, like the gardener, security guard and some strangers walking on the road!! I don't know what to do.

He has already told me to get ready to seduce his friend.

please help me and also please respond as soon as possible as i do not have much time.

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A male reader, thekalel United States +, writes (13 January 2010):

dear cheating wife lady

ok for starters you got yourself into this . now understand what blackmail is ... a bluff . be smart and call . stop being his puppet and think ... if your husband will kill you for cheating then what do you think he would do to your cousin for forcing you to have sex with him?????? your cousin is most likely not going to tell on you but if he does he is dealing with the same shitstorm level as you . bring that to his attention and kill this thing once and for all . oh and stop cheating on your husband you twit.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010):

what is exactly the problem?

I dont think its sex, coz seems like u enjoy it.

is it the threesome, or the partner

or is it striping for him on a cam.

Going from what u say, looks like u want to have a threesome.

If you can have the threesome, then i think u should also strip for him on cam. If its the partner, tell him.

Its nothing compared to what you have already done.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

Thanks for your advice, caringguy, but I can't go to the police as the boy was underage. Whatever I say they wont believe me, and my husband and family will know. I can not let that happen. I would prefer to do as forced then let anyone find out.

And to people who are making fun, i know i was stupid for being trapped.I can't change it now. The only thing in my mind at that time was to take advantage of the time my husband was away. I dint suspect the cousin and when i found out it was too late.

This is not a made up story but a mess i am stuck in.

Please help me...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

A 14 year old kid has you wrapped around his finger? Are you as dumb as a brick? OTOH, this post cannot be a real one. It has all the hallmarks of a cheesy Hollywood plot for sexually starved teens.

Someone's trolling the intertubes.

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A male reader, weparley United States +, writes (2 January 2010):

You don't want to be his puppet?

"TO LATE TO BE SAYING THAT"

Reading what I just read, You might as well be a prostitute

because that's what you belittled yourself to be in this case.

If you had any type of self dignity, you would not ALLOW a 14 year to keep you in bondage.

I mean why are you so in fear of your husband?

Who is this guy a God Father Mobster? WHO CARES IF he finds out.

"Stop being a whore and get a little self/respect for yourself."

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (1 January 2010):

Don't be blackmailed. Ever. Better to go to the police than be blackmailed. Imagine what your husband will be do if he find out you've been sleeping with other men too. Face up to it now, not later.

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