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writes: I have a problem not sure what to do. Im 25 and Ive been with my fiance for 7 years now and recently been disagreeing with most things - petty things mainly. I do love him in my own way but been seeing this other guy from work for about 1 yr now and i enjoy his comapany - i know its wrong as we have taken things futher - ive slept with him on several occassions but im all confused dont know what to do!!! I now been sleeping in the back room for a week as my fiance doesnt want me to sleep with him anymore, he doesnt know ive been having an affair. Please help!!!
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reader, shandy +, writes (23 August 2006):
What you are doing is wrong and it's not fair on your partner. You cant have the best of both worlds because one day it will back fire on you. If you love your partner you need to sort your issues out either between yourselves or you go and see a counsellor or alternatively you end the relationship but explain to him the true reasons so that he can move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): Stop deceiving yourself and your fiancee tell him it is over. You are a cheat, and despite your feelings for the new guy, you should be honest with your fiancee, I think he deserves this after 7 years (one of which you've cheated on him). Don't lie to him, he will work it out eventually if you are seeing someone else, and he will hate you for the lies, just tell him the truth and move on.
Try not to cheat in your next relationship. How would you feel if your fiance was shagging someone behind your back for a year and you still had feelings for him? I'd wish you good luck, but in view of the way you have cheated on your fiancee you don't deserve it. He will be much better off without you.
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reader, agony aunt. +, writes (21 August 2006):
if you love your fiance, why did you cheat on him? you need to stop this affair and start building your relationship between you and your husband. if you are unsure what you want to do, both of you see a concellor to help you both build your relationship in a secure way. things will work out then, i promise. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): Face up to the truth you obviously dont want to be with your fiance anymore, if you did you wouldnt be going elsewhere. Im not going to preach to you because ive been in the same situation. If you dont make a desition soon someone will get hurt, so just make the break and get on with your life. Do the right thing and trust me in time you will feel so much better.
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