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writes:i'm in a really hard situation,i've been with my fella for 16 yrs and we have 3 kids together the problem is that he's a gambler and he's cleaned out my bank.i could get over that but he just lies to my face promising that he's not taken any money.when i confronted him with it he made out it was my fault and that he had done nothing wrong and didnt even say sorry.i love this guy but i think he will never stop please help i didn't know where else to turn
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): I don't know much about Gamcare (UK gambling charity) but I think that it is highly supported by the gambling industry to help gamblers who have problems.. http://www.gamcare.org.uk/
Gambler's anonymous follows the "12 step programme", and has a strong spiritual basis. Gamcare may provide a different type of treatment, and this may be more suitable for your and your partners needs... Good luck babes, and remember, this is his problem, so keep you and your finances safe. You can help, but only he can make the step to give up. Contact these people and at least get support in this for you to cope with this issue..
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): A gambling man is a dangerous man, and you will always live in poverty while you are with him. Make sure that he has no access to your money, and negotiate with him to have his salary payed directly to you for all the household bills. Gambling men can give up, or at least slow down. I have men like that in my family, and when they decided to get a mortgage, they seemed more interested in spending their money on the house. My dad was a gambling man, he even stole my pocket money when I was a kid, but he's changed now, but then again in is in he's 70's. I will never, ever date a guy with a gambling problem, and if one develops I would leave them. But that's me.
Make sure you take control of all the finances, and leave him with only a little bit of pocket money, otherwise he will continue to spend every penny you have.
Contact Gambler's Anonymous, and get him to go with you to their local meetings, or go on your own, so you can get help to deal with this dangerous addiction that he has...
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org.uk/
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): hi, you cant believe or trust a gambler. He will always find excuses to get money. Yes, he will wake up and stop, when he really has no more source of getting any cents and when he really has no money to buy food for daily life...You must really talk to him about the consequenses. You must tell him that if he carries on like this, the whole family will collapse and die...Regards.Kit
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