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writes: I am 39 years old and divorced and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We have been quite happy together and I trust him, but I have always got upset and made unhappy by the fact that he will never move in with me, he says that the time isnt right. He met me when he was still with another woman who was pregnant at the time and I didnt know, but we stayed together. He has guilty feelings from what happened. Any way I started working for a new company last year and about 6mths ago I met a guy that works there,he's married with 2 teenagers and they have been together for 22yrs. We were just friends at first and sent each other funny e-mails and poke fun at each other at work but then it changed. I started to feel attracted to him and miss him when he wasnt around and the same for him. We finally went out for a drink together and got on so well we kissed but we felt so guilty as neither of us have cheated before. We still txt and e-mail and ring each other every day and we are just fighting our feelings all the time. What do we do?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (7 January 2007):
You seem to be surrounded by people who make poor choices. Leave the married guy alone. Your boyfriend should have left you alone. Everyone would be so much happier if they focused on their legitimate relationships as opposed to the ones on the side.
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Go with what you both are feeling "guilty" as charged. Neither of you has cheated before? Well, then stop cheating and the guilt feelings will go away. Who are we to break up a bond? If the marriage was failing, let it fail without your help. You tend to come into relationships that are not over yet. Maybe you should break that pattern.
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