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Question - (12 January 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 January 2010)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Here's the problem I was in a 2 year relationship. We had a very healthy sex life. She was beautiful and very experienced I was not but she taught me well. I am no stud but we got the job done. We have been broke up for almost two years now I have only had one successful sexual encounter since then. I have had other opportunities but had problems getting hard. I just don't get excited like I should. Just this passed weekend I had a very sexy girl I was making out with and couldn't get it up I wanted to I got feel the tingle but I just wasn't getting there. I have terrible performance anxiety especially when I know a girl has had really great sex I think what can I do with my 6inch thin penis it really screws me up. I really just want a stable girlfriend so I don't have to worry about one night stands. The further I get from sex the more I think I will be a sexual clutz and go premature even if. I get it up. HELP

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (12 January 2010):

Honestly, we girls are NOT THAT COMPLICATED.

I think you should make it a new year's mission to go out and start talking to a girl you don't know every week.

Just start a conversation. Say Hi.

If she shoots you down then it's not a big deal. You still went and talked to her, and you know you'll talk to some other girl and it will go well.

And if you do get chatting and she's nice and you want to see her again then tell her that you would love to see her again. Ask for her number and text her the next day to ask if you can take her out for dinner / coffee / cinema / whatever.

Just try it!!

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010):

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Okay so here's the deal I am not the kind of guy who knows how to make the moves. I just know how to treat a lady like a princesses when I get her. I honestly can't say I have ever went for a girl that didn't make it painfully obvious she wanted me. Usually aggressive girls who really in the end don't work out. I have been cheated on and physically abused. I would love to meet some girl I could sweep off her feet, but I don't have broom I guess. I always meet girls through association. I have a particular crush on a girl who is a great friend of mine I think she is the single greatest person on this earth. But alas she also is my roomates ex who I an pretty sure he would off himself of I dated her. Not to mention I don't want sabotage our friendship. So I want a girlfriend but my sexual worries drop my confidence and ladies u know u like confident men.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (12 January 2010):

So if you want and prefer having a girlfriend to having one night stands then why are you making out with girls at parties?

Why not get chatting to a girl or three and ask one you like out for coffee?

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010):

Don't worry about it. Just enjoy it and use what you have learned. Trust me bro, size isn't everything. A guy can have a 12 inch penis, but if he just lays there and doesn't do anything she won't enjoy it as a guy who knows what he's doing.

A lot of foreplay, women love it. Take it slow, kiss every inch of her. Especially the parts that have nerve endings. Neck, ear, inner thighs, back of knee caps, back of neck, lower back, and the obvious ones. Nipples, and down under.

She obviously wants it so give it to her. If she likes it fine, if not so what? It was a one time thing. What's more embarrasing? Thinking about it so much you can't get it up? Or doing it? Worse case scenario you still had fun. That's what it's all about. Don't think about who she has been with before. Don't compare yourself.

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