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writes:We went out on a first two dates a few days ago and i just found out that we have so much in common. Today he invited me to his house for tonight ... but since we went out on a first dates and he wasnt making any moves towards me and when it came to the kissing he said that he wouldnt do anything im not ready yet for ... so now i would like to get him to sleep with me - you know as usually people do - and i have to say that i really appreciate that he wasnt just about sex ... so what can i do or say to " somehow" let him know that i am ready to bring our ` relationship` onto the new level ( im ready to sleep with him) not speaking directly if you know what i mean ?Thanks x
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (22 September 2009):
 I would wait a little and stick to things like kissing etc as he may be wanting to take it a little slower.
Then I would just turn round one day and tell him that you think he is a nice guy and that you appreciate he dint just want you for sex etc. I think he wants you to acknowledge that he is a man of material and is interested in something long term. Then just come on to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): I agree with the other two aunts here....this seems like a stupid question to me sorry. You don't know what to do to get a guy to sleep with you?
How about standing up in front of him and disrobing, at least he will know your intentions.
Good luck.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 I think that if you really like him you should wait and get to know him even better first. You need a solid foundation of friendship before you bring your ' relationship' to the next level. Perhaps that's what he wishes as well and that's why he's acting reserved and respectful towards you. Why do you feel you want to rush things? is it physical( girl you can take care of yourself I'm sure) is it emotional?.........you can't rush that and if that's the reason then building a foundation of friendship first will give you even more emotional security in the future. One last thing, he is a man, why not let him pursue you physically, if you are the aggressive one chasing him then you aren't allowing him to do what men do. He will ask you for that when the time is right don't worry:)good luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): Have you considered that HE may not wish to go that far yet? He could be looking/ hoping for 'the one' and you're gonna turn out just like all the rest.
The sooner you stop assuming that the guy is always gonna be 'up for it' regardless, the more chance you're gonna find the one. If you want to that is.
Consider that there are feelings here other than your own.
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