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writes:Hi. I'll try and keep this as simple as I can. I am 16 years old and recently was dumped by my boyfriend of 9 months 3 days ago. He said he felt that our relationship had "run it's course". He hurt me a lot, but we eventually decided to just be good friends. The following day I had a fight with my best friend and she has completely cut me out of her life. I caused it by getting jealous over her interfering with my relationship too much and getting too close to my bf when we were going out. I then apologised but she threw everything back in my face. About 10 mins after this she blamed my ex for the whole thing, but somehow she ended up flirting with him. He told me what she had been saying but when I told him she was flirting he was refusing to believe me. Me and him were ok and I was feeling much better today, but then I discovered that their friendship was more than either of them made out. Ok they werent having and affair, but I didnt think they were that close. Now he's saying he wouldn't mind getting closer with her though he knows it will hurt me and that he doesn't want to go out with her. I am so confused and jealous and I thought I could handle things but I really cant. Does anyone know what he's thinking? He says he still cares about me, but everything he says just hurts me. Im still hurt by what he did but i want our friendship to work out but I think if he gets any closer with her itll kill me. Please someone help me. x
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reader, Redd_Extacy  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 I've been through this same thing.I know it hurts but trust me,it's very unhealthy to hold on! It's going to be hard to get over it but you have to deal with what is and learn from it or it'll just tear you apart.You shouldn't show him all of your emotions because you're giving him the upper hand and that's something you don't want.I kno you cared for him but you have to remember everything happens for a reason.If he did this to you,chances are he will do the same to her.She's not a very good friend if she's flirting with your guy anyway..that's her weakness.maybe she feels she have to prove a point so don't let it get to you...try to stay strong and do you! He will realize what he lost...I hope this helped! :) goodluck
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 January 2010):
 shit happens, he probably likes this girl and hes a guy if he could he would have both of you hell if he had any game he would have both of you but hes just a boy hes got potential, oh wait im supposed to be helping you sorry,
well im gonna try to put my self in a chicks shoes theres very few i can fit im guessing you feel betrayed and your hurt and all that, well get over it thats the best advice i can give.
Theres nothing wrong with you im sure you where a wonderful and beautiful gf but guys want it all they want all the girls like lil wayne said. Guys are greedy so your friend who also has a pair of boobs weasled her way between you and your bf its life, you will get over it.
dump your friend and your bf move on with your life this is going to happen to you again so heres your first taste at heart break, it wont hurt as bad the next time hopefully
Focus on you do something for your self buy a new outfit somehting
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reader, ashaseth01  +, writes (7 January 2010):
hi
I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I would like to know if your girlfriend has a boyfriend? I am guessing that she doesn't. This is the reason she interfered in your relationship more than she should have- she was jealous. That you had a boyfriend and she didnt. At your age this is normal. And its also normal that you dont know how to handle jealousy.
Now lets come to your boyfriend. You see, because of the way your best friend is behaving, he gets this extra attention which he likes. So, he finds a reason to fight with you because he himself is totally confused. After all he is a teenager too. Dont worry. Everyone goes through this phase in life. Relax. dont be jealous. You will meet someone who is better for you than this guy is. A guy who will understand you and be kind to you , love you and treat you well. His leaving you is in your best interest. He has just cleared the path for this awesome guy who is around the corner waiting for you. Go find him girl. Forget about this doushe who isnt worth your tears and your effort. Find someone worthwhile.
All the best
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
He's a liar, and your friend is a liar. The truth is they both fancy each other. You don't need either of these people in your life. Forget them both, they are both worthless to you. What boyfriend does this? What friend does this? Neither. It won't kill you, it will make you stronger. You now have to be strong for yourself and move forward with your life. The good news is there will be a far better guy waiting for you. So now focus on your own life, mend your heart and when yu're ready, you'll find your Mr Right. Don't waste time on these two.
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