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writes:Im a male aged 22,i have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 6 months,she is 18.I love her so much she's the most important person in the world to me.I tell her often how much I care about her and would do anything for her.She doesn't really show her true feelings due to getting hurt in the past although she does show give signs now and again that she cares and that she has feelings for me which is enough for me.She's a virgin she told me in the first few weeks we were dating,she thought I was going to freak out at that.I was in a way happy because I knew she didn't sleep around(not that all girls do,just the town where I live every second young girl you see has a child) we have talked about sex and she said we wasn't ready and taking things slow.Which I told her I respect her for that,I have never put pressure on her for sex.I have always told her her "I am not with for that reason,I am with you because I love you and you make me happy".At what point can I approach her about her sex? don't want to say too early in case she isn't ready still. At the same time don't want to leave it to long in case she thinks I am not interested.I love her so much and don't want this to become an issue between us.
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reader, xgod  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 My advice:
Get her to trust you wholeheartedly.
Hug her often, hold her while sitting together, snuggle with her and just lay together, sharing body warmth. Prove to her that you love her by making it clear you wish to share your presence with her.
SAY to her that sex is something she can decide on. Then be patient. When SHE is ready, you will get some nice warm snuggling from the inside.
UNTIL then, if you love her, tell her every day and hold her and comfort her and keep physical and emotional contact with her. Do things you know she likes without having her ask you first. Bring her a drink when you observe her glass is empty. Surprise her with a single flower when she least expects it. You do not need to spend all your money, just all of your love and attention.
She will know you are interested as long as you share your warmth, both emotional and physical, with her.
Eventually, if you are not already at that point, prove your trust by sleeping together in your underwear - with complete agreement that sex will NOT happen. Before you know it, give or take a week or two, you'll be sleeping naked together, and eventually she will let you inside!
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