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36-40,
*onie
writes:I have been dating this guy for 3 yrs.I am at school, he does not even give me money for taxi fare's and not even for lunch but he is working.Is this right or i am greedy please help
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reader, Farris  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 I don't think that he should GIVE you money. He worked and earned that money for himself, and you don't have the right to take that away from him just because you're dating.
On the other hand, I do believe that it's a little mean of him not to offer to buy you lunch or lend you money for a taxi once in a while. It's nice to be treated every once in a while, but I'd only let my boyfriend do that to me because I know that I'll give him a treat another time.
It's all about equality.
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Among myself and most of my friends we expect people we are dating to be independent. While we can and should work out any relationship issues, ones of personal finance are solely the responsibility of the person in question. So while things like Dinner, Movies, Concert Tickets are fully in the scope of dating the personal living expenses you speak of are not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): I think anyone should want to help loved ones out in anyway they can. Relationships should be about giving and taking, about caring for one and other and wanting to be there in anyway that the other person may need, be it emotional, sexual, financial or otherwise. Of course people need to put themselves first and take care of themselves if they are to be capable of helping the other person. So if your needs are reasonable and genuine then I think it's his duty to help you out if he in any way that he can if he really cares about you. I can understand if he doesn't want to outright support you (I probably would do that for the people I love if I could, but it doesn't make it right), but picking up the bill at a restaurant, paying for shared taxis, feeding you and making your life easier should just be natural.
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Are you living alone? Do you mean lunch at school or lunch when you're on a date with him?
I think he should help you pay for taxi fares and food if you are on your way to meet up with HIM.
DOn't get me wrong, though, I don't think guys have to pay for everything but at least he should be aware of how much it costs you to see him (on your limited allowance) and you both have to decide HOW to get around that problem.
It also depends on what kind of job he's at and what he's saving up his money for. Do you think he's a penny-pincher? If he is, then you'll have to love him despite of it or decide whether you want to maintain this kind of relationship despite how long you've been together.
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