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anonymous
writes:I met this wonderful man (we will call him - Man) 10 months ago. We hit it off right away, about 4 weeks in to the relationship a woman approched me and told me to leave him because he had a singles ad on the internet and was checking it everyday. I decided that since we just met there was no reason for me to request that he remove the ad and that he would do it on his own time, when and if he felt I was the one. Here we are 10 months later and he is still checking the site 2-3 times a day, which he doesn't know that I check it. What do I do, is it right for me to say me or the ad online? I just need some advice as to wat I should do with this, please help thank you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): I think you have every right to ask him why he still checks his ad. This happened to me, at around the same point in the relationship. So I just came out and told him that I found the ad, I knew he was looking, and why did he feel the need to still have the ad. In my case, it turned out really well. He told me he checked just out of curiosity, probably to feed his ego, but that he was sorry for worrying me. He took it down that day. If you stay honest with him now and create a pattern of openness instead of letting things build up in your mind, you might be pleasantly surprised with the results. In my case, he came out and told me how much I mean to him... best case scenario! :)
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reader, lucky lynne  +, writes (18 April 2007):
 If he checks his online ad then he`s planning a secret fling. There is no other reason to check it. He would have deleted it if he was faithful.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (16 April 2007):
 I guess you need to have a serious talk with Man.
Ask him why after 10 months the ad is still there.
Before doing this please think about a woman who approached you and told you to leave him.
Maybe she is somehow interested in him or maybe she has something against him from past.
His reaction anyway will tell you whether you are the one.
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