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writes:Dear CupidMy mom is a college professor and when I am at her office she has introduced me to her colleagues, staff, and occasionally a student. Some of these students have been women. These introductions are only a matter of her being polite and civil when the situation demands and are without motive. I have never seen any of these students twice and wouldn't recognize them on the street. However, my girlfriend demands that I no longer go to my moms office and if I have to, that I rush in and out, wait outside the building, etc. What gives? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): She's insecure as you 'no doubt' already have guessed. Insecurities often bring about headaches and heartaches. This is something SHE has to work on. If you are truly willing and of course, willing to hack your backbone up into mush for her insecurities, then be her guest, rush in and out. Otherwise, you have to sit her down, possibly even lay her down and give it to her good. I mean, to tell her that she is ridiculous in a very polite and gentle way. [wink]
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reader, tinklinglaughter  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Hmmm...seems like she might have some underlying insecurities or similar issues. Do you have any idea why that might be? Because it really doesn't seem like something to have a problem with if the situation is indeed exactly the way you describe it. Ask her what kind of situation is she trying to avoid by telling (not asking) you to no longer go there. That'll probably tell you what she's afraid of and you can hopefully help put her fears to rest. What exactly has triggered this off? Have you said something about one of those women to her in manner she may not have liked? Has she heard something from someone else? Otherwise, it seems like an overreaction on her part and you may want to let her know that she can't try to control you in this manner (even if it is in a trivial way) because you know you're doing nothing wrong. Once you can find out what's causing this insecurity you will be able to better deal with the situation, or so I hope.
Hope this has been helpful..Take care :)
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