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writes:I have a friend of the opposite sex with whom I started having a 'friends with benefits' relationship. He's always been clear that we are not an item, however, we've started spending so much time together - we hang out at least 4 nights a week and often stay over at each other's places. I even have a key to his place and he gave me his cash card and pin number. Even when we hang out without having sex, he won't let me leave until we've cuddled a little, but he still says he doesn't want a relationship. I'm not sure if that is what he really wants now or if he's trying to just stick to his original word. I'd like us to be something more official, or committed, if not serious. Should I talk to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (2 February 2010):
 You should talk to him, but it does not seem like he will agree. You shouldn't continue being friends with benefits if he doesn't agree to start a real relationship; it will result in your feelings getting hurt.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 Hi, If you don't tell him what you want from him and carry on this arrangement, you'll be on here again in a few months telling how you're devastated cos you thought he loved you etc.
I hope he wants something more, but if he doesn't you're going to get your heart broken if you stick around.
Hope it works out x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
He is very insistent that you are not boyfriend and girlfriend. If you do talk to him, and he tells you that you're not boyfriend and girlfriend, then you need to back away, because you're getting too close. It's worth talking to him to know where you stand. But if you're after more and he is sure he doesn't' want it, then back away for your own good.
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