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Becoming more than friends with an older lady... but scared because she's said in the past she likes guys who are well hung!

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Question - (7 February 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I've been friends with this older lady friend of mine for three years. Even though the age gap is about seventeen years is doesnt matter as we get on so well. I've started to like her more than a mate and I'm getting signs that she's starting to be that way towards me too. This is the situation I'm in. We chat about a lot of personal things without embarrasment all the time. When we've talked about sex she's said that penis size matters a lot to her. So much so that she's not totally satisfied with anything less than a large penis. I've never been worried about my size until now. I know a lot of men complain about their size but believe me when I say I'm at the lower end of the scale. I dont know if I could face hurt from something like this and if she'd even want to stay with me. I found out recently that the long term boyfriend she had of five years wasnt well endowed and she actually complained to one of her friends that he wasnt big enough, but despite that she did stay with him for five whole years. She did split the relationship up but I've no idea if that is why. I do like her as apart from this one thing, she's a great person to be with.

I dont talk to the other women I know as much about sex but when this subject comes up most of them seem to view a big penis as a bonus rather than a must.

I've never been one for one night stands or flings. If I ask a woman out I'm serious about it so I suppose what I'm asking is do you think I can make a go of it with her? I have to make it clear that she doesnt 'prefer' large she seems to badly want it. But the long term boyfriend situation thus confuses me.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007):

I'd say you should just go ahead and have fun and see where it goes. If it's a problem, then at least you were aware of the possibility beforehand, but most likely it will be fine. You never know, the last guy could have been smaller than you. You have little to lose, and potentially a lot to gain.

It's all about preference. Some women like larger penises, some women like smaller penises, lots like average sized men, and most could careless about the size of it.

We as men cannot change what we have so we just have to learn how to use what God gave us. Big, small, average, whatever. We're all different and so are women. It happens to all of us, man. We've all been in a situation when things are getting hot and we think to ourselves "I sure hope I'm big enough for her." Then you learn in the end that it's all in your head.

Good luck.

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A female reader, here_2_help United Kingdom +, writes (7 February 2007):

here_2_help agony aunthey you

you know what you could do so much better then that and size dosent matter. Its not a good sign when she has been with a guy for 5 years and they split for that. further more sex should be between two ppl who love each other and you know what they say love is blind so it wouldent matter. i think you should think carefuly about this after all that time as friends if anything gose wrong then you friendship is not likly to survive. hope this helps you

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (7 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntOkay if it comes down to it and you say to a woman- small penis or large penis? i'm guessing the majority would pick the latter but relationships are about so much more than this. Would you reject a woman who was perfect in every way except that she had small boobs and you prefer big ones? Exactly! In the grand scheme of things I bet this wouldn't matter as much as you think it will.

CD

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A female reader, mel_22 United Kingdom +, writes (7 February 2007):

mel_22 agony auntWell I must say that if this lady truly wants to be with a person then it shouldnt come down to the size of their penis, most women will say that want a larger one but when it comes to it size really doesnt matter, maybe you sould just go for it and if you get rejected on the size of it then she really isnt a very decent person you have to remember that to be with someone its not just down to the size of the penis it should be personality and the way you make each other feel when you're together I hope you have a try and that things work out for you and remember that if she rejects you she probably wasn't worth it in the first place

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