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writes:I went on a first date with a lad from my college. I have only really known him since we started college and he told one of my friends he liked me and has said over the internet that he likes me...so we went to the cinema and talked loads on the way there and back, but he didn't try to make a move, at all. Not even a hug at the end of the date or holding my hand or anything.I am now quite confused because from that date i think i only see him as a friend, i really do not know what to do. How do i decide whether he will only ever be a friend or whether he could be something more?? Please help i'm so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): It seems he is a proper gentleman on the first date. He maybe shy and sensitive.
The worse things we can do in a relationship, is to make assumptions, after a while, we start believeing they are facts when they are not, they are only assumptions.
Relax, if on the second date he doesn't hold your hand, then gently take his hand and hold it. You can also add "I hope you don't mind" or something to verbally tell him that is what you want.
In relationships, we use communication, both verbal and non verbal to get to know each other.
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reader, indie girl +, writes (9 April 2008):
He sounds shy. I think maybe you should ask him on another date, the cinema is a good place (; and get closer to him. If he doesn't make a move, start cuddling up to him. If he still doesn't make a move, then i think if you like him alot then you should make the first move.
If he doesn't make the move back, then he's either gay or not interested.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Miss Kipling +, writes (9 April 2008):
 There is quite a high chance that this boy is shy or didnt wanted to make any moves for fear of being too forward. The fact that you and him had a conversation throughout the date suggests that you get on well with eachother which is great.The best way to see how you really feel is to go out with him again. If you are still not sure how he feels after that then you may just have to ask him. I think that after you have spent time to getting to know him you will be able to tell whether there is anything there or whether you should just stay friends .Remember though, there is no rush to do anything physical sp let nature take its course!
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