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female
age
30-35,
*spanol
writes:Hello,I am having real problems trusting my boyfriend...At the beginning of our relationship for 8 months my boyfriend was messaging a lot of other girls on a well known networking site. the messages were flirty and provocative...he stopped when we said we loved each other and have since been together for a year and 3 months. He deleted all of the girls, and made his account extremely private. I found these messages and confronted him about them he said that because the beginning of our relationship was so unstable and he didn't know what i wanted he tried to take his mind off me so he wouldn't get hurt as he intended to end things with me (he did for 2 months).But i feel as if our relationship has been based on a lie, and that i cannot trust him...what do i do?thanks for taking the time to read this. this is tearing our relationship apart and i would really like some advice.
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reader, Espanol +, writes (7 June 2010):
Espanol is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou so much guys, this has really helped. I think i do need to move on and think about this today. i found out when we were serious about eachother but it all stopped way before that... i found out 10months into our serious relationship, and also saw that since we committed there hadn't been anything else and that was off his own back because i didnt know so he had changed.
i love him very much and think he is the person i want to be with for life now :) and just needed to think about how to rectify this.
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 The first eight months of your relationship, he was flirty with other women in net but when both your love became stronger, he stopped communicating with these women and deleted them from his list...when did you find out the messages? was this before or after he became serious with you? How did you find out these messages?
If what you are feeling right now having doubts or mistrust based from the past and you can't get over it, then I think you are the one's who needs change. Past is past, what you need to think of is TODAY. Insecurities, mistrusts, doubts, jealousies are relationship killers. Build a strong relationship with what you have today and leave the past behind. If you want to have an inner peace, sit down with him and talk to him how he made you feel and have some mutual agreement if you can both be open with each other with no secrets. With this arrangement I am sure you can build a relationship made of rock and not of sand with trust, respect,understanding and honesty...be open let him know what you feel.
GOODLUCK!
sweetiebabes
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