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writes:I am only 19 years old. I got married 2 years ago at young age.to love him a lot. I've known him for 6 years and my family dislikes him. After living with him for 1 year I left him and went back to my parents because I felt that I was supporting him only and he just did nothing and hangout with his friend,so I was fed up with it.. We were still married at the time I left. I felt guilty and cried every night. So after 2 months, I decided to go back to be with him. I started hearing rumors about him with other girls and he keeps bringing girls over to his house and everything. I just brushed it off and said it's just rumors. But after all these months the rumors keeps coming back. And it's hurting me now. I confronted him about the rumors but he just keeps saying it's nothing or it's the past or he don't want to talk to me. I also found a letter this girl wrote to him saying she loves him and so on. I did some investigating and found her page online. Her friends wrote to her saying "I heard that his wife is back in town so you better not get caught" I was angry and mad and confronted him about this too. He denied it and laughed and said I was stupid. I don't know what to do. I'm scared to leave because of the guilt, but I feel like I'm hurting everyday and I'm just baring the pain. I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): Your husband is still not emotionally mature enough to assume adult responsibilities such as getting a job (I'm assuming you're the one who's earning the money here, forgive me if I'm wrong) and you know what? There's no telling WHEN he'll smarten up and become a better husband and man.So instead of waiting, waiting and waiting, while your youth flies by, why not take charge and leave him, so that you can focus on what YOU want out of life instead of waiting for him to be on the same page as you.Besides, cheating hurts. If your gut tells you he is cheating, he most probably is. So this is another reason to leave him.You are sooo young, I am only one year older than you and I really hate to see you in such a situation. Be brave and do what is best for YOU- leave.All the best and lots of courage to you dear!
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (26 June 2010):
The writing is on the wall, you are married to a selfish, lying, cheating user.
You have done your best, now lift up your head up high and walk out and don't look back.
You were born to live a happy life not this hurtful, stressful, soul distorying existence.
Go home to your parents hun, karma has a great way of dealing with men like your husband.
Keep us updated.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): Hi, you have nothing to be guilty about, he should be the one feeling guilty, you only left him because of how he treated you,it is better you leave than stay there, get all stress out and something happens that might be bad. All the signs are right in front of you, he bring girls to his house, you found a letter of love to him from another girl, you even found a online massage of girlfriends warning girlfriends not to get caught by you and what about all those rumors. He broke his promise to be faithful to you a promise he made in front of witness, he cause the hurt and pain and if you stay with him, it may not end. You say you love him but how could you love someone who will not stand by you, hold you hand and be faithful to you in sickness and in health till death do you part. I thing you need to leave him and move on and yes it will hurt for a while but the heart will heal trust me i know i have had to turn away from loved ones and move no but the good thing is time heals all wounds.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (26 June 2010):
The smartest thing you did was go back to your parents! and the worst thing you did was go back to him. it just gives him more leverage! you are so young and got your whole life ahead of you and there are so many guys out there who will respect you. trust me go back to your parents and dump him and i would tell the other girl he's yours im done w/ him.
you'll be a ok in time you deserve better!!!! they have a way of making you feel like you need them and nobody else would want you, why they just play the field. you will see if you leave and you stay away how much respect you will gain for yourself and you will be very selective next time your worth it remember that and believe it.
Good Luck
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