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female
age
36-40,
*rtistah
writes:*OP's own title*We were classmates in kindergarten then she transferred to another school in grade school.. in highschool we were classmates again up until 2nd year.. then she transferred again to another city. we lost contact for 10 years and then we got reconnected online.. i am a lesbian but i go for straight girls.. i began to like her.. we were communicating everyday since we reconnected. she is in the United States and I am back here in the Philippines.. she went back home and we got a series of meetings if i go to our hometown.. i never really told her that i like her.. well, we always talk about love, relationships, etc. she told me she's not ready for that.. she said she enjoys being single.. i, in turn always tell her that i'm tired of being single (as i have been for more than a year) now she is working and she's planning to go back here in july. i really wanted to let her know but i jsut don't want to lose her.. i don't want to break our friendship.. but at the back of my mind i also want to court her.. i really dont know what to do now.. pls help..
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reader, raiders  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 bring it up to her ask her if she would ever have a lesbian experience, but I would wait for her answer. I don't know if you want to loose a good friend by going for the kill, I would just bring up the topic and see what she says.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Do you honestly believe she would be open to having a romantic, sexual relationship? Saying "I am lesbian but I go for straight girls..." is pretty selfish and is destined to set you up for a lot of heartbreaks and even hurt some friendships.
Normally I'd suggest going for it and give love a chance, but from how you sound already, it seems you already know what she is going to say.
I'd keep your feelings to your self in this case if your friendship is that important to you. However, if you think there is an honest chance she could be open to that, then you can try. But you have to be honest with yourself on whether you believe there IS a chance.
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