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writes:My gf and i have been together now for a 1 year and 5 months. I love her but recently i have started to get bored and love her less. Basically i want to be single,im only 15 so i dont want to be with one girl practically all my teenage life.My question is how do i tell her this. I know it will hurt her no matter what but whats the best way to do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for all your advice. i broke up with her in the end, its best for the both of us.
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reader, chickchick +, writes (31 March 2009):
 im a 14 year old girl ,
and no matter how long i was in a relationship for ,
if it was heading to a dead end i wouldn't want to be dragged out. if your going to do it then its not an easy thing at all. maybe go round her house and dont plan it so she doesn't expect the usuall meeting up and just ask her if you can talk? but dont act like normal or you wont be able to do it.
i went out with my boyfriend for 10 months,
i started to get bored etc.
i never knew what i had until it was gone.
maybe you could ask for a break and see what happends?
hope it helps :\
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reader, DeserveMore  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Sounds like you are trying to find things wrong with her as the reason you want to break up as opposed to your original post which said it isn't about her, it is about you wanting space. You are trying to make yourself feel better before you have even hurt her feelings. MAN UP! If it is about you, not her, then leave it at that !!! No need to hurt the girl and find fault with her...
If you never see each other, then you AREN'T TOGETHER! News flash.... Just call her on the phone and be kind but firm. Tell her that this has everything to do with you and nothing to do with her... you just want space right now.
Then, leave it at that.
She may not want to be friends when this is over with, so be prepared for that.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Take her for a walk.
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reader, DeserveMore +, writes (30 March 2009):
It is going to hurt no matter what- but it will hurt her more if you put it off. You have been with her long enough to know what she views as kindness. Do that.... Take a walk... have a talk... tell her it is a serious one.... give her time to react... listen to how she feels... tell her you care, but you care enough to not drag her through a relationship while you are wanting space. Make sure you let her know that it isn't about her and that you aren't looking to date anyone else and then honor that. Go at least two or three months without flirting with anyone else or going out with anyone else. You owe her that respect.... she sounds like a nice girl... Also realize that she may have the same sort of feelings and other guys might approach her once you back off. You need to be prepared for the fact that you might not have been the only one wanting to be with her.Just be nice, kind and respectful. That sums it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh yeh,when can i do it. i cant do it when i go to her house or she comes to mine because that would be too awkward with parents and everything especailly in her house,texting it is a cowards way out and when we go to town its just us. any ideas on when to do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Hi. I'm 19,and engaged,I know what its like being in a young relationship. I think everyone at your age has a sort of 'practice' relationship, so they see what they want from the relationship they are in for the rest of their lives(when the time comes). Try and just say to her you love her, and you really appreciate having her in your life, but you think you are too young to be in a long relationship. She will hopefully appreciate your honesty.
Hope I have helped.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionforgot to say she takes thing too seriously which is very annoying after this amount of time and is very moody aswel.
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