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anonymous
writes:Hello, so I was with this guy off and on for 3 years now. We just recently broke up he said it's because I didn't respect him or the relationship, although I did most of the work on it.Anyway my question is could he be gay? Could he have left me for his best friend?He told me a couple months ago that he has experimented before and let another guy go down on him, I ignored it because it was in the past... then I looked at his facebook friends and all he had was bisexual people on there, he sent some guy on AOL a pic of his penis... he told me he didn't know it was a dude, then also he told me he is only bisexual when he drinks which is all the time, so therefore he is bi all the time. Then he was always wanting to hang out with his friend every night even though we all lived together. So maybe he left me for his friend? Could he be gay?Please help.
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reader, DeserveMore +, writes (30 March 2009):
 Yes, he could absolutely be gay. Honestly, it sounds quite probable. Everything that you are describing that he has done has gone way past simple experimentation. We all have our curious sides, but it sounds like he was simply using your relationship as an attempt at what he believes to be a "normal life" or to perpetuate some sort of facade. Maybe he doesn't want to admit it to himself, so it is easier for him to find fault with you than to admit to himself that he is gay. It is actually a compliment to you that he had to make up such a ridiculous reason to leave. Most girls give guys a million "for real" reasons, so all they have to do is pick. Also, when someone is fighting the gay urge, they tend to pick someone phenomenal to "break" them. If it doesn't work, they grow closer to realizing the truth about themselves. Buck up--- the same thing happened with a guy my sister dated--- it happens more than you realize. Take it as a compliment--- even if he never admits it to you.
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