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Based on her response after our first date does it look like she's uninterested?

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Question - (17 October 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2012)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I recently went out with a girl for the first time. I had a great time on the date and thought she did as well.

I waited a couple days to contact her after the date to let her know I had a great time and that she was good company to be with.

This was done via text because she had told me that it is easier to get in touch with her this way father than calling.

Her response was "Thank you! It was a nice evening."

I was expecting a little bit more of a response, for example that she had a good time as well.

Based on her response does it appear she is not interested? To me it seems she is not because she could have said she had a good time also, or something more expressive.

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A male reader, Cultuz Iceland +, writes (4 November 2012):

I think you waited too long, but I agree that if she was interested, she should have wanted to talk about the date more, not just kill the conversation there.

I still think, if you like her that is, that you should invite her on a 2nd date. That way you can be sure.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012):

She's probably sat around for the 2 days after the date that you failed to contact her and wondered the same thing. Yes, she's interested, and you should ask her out again. If it goes well on the 2nd date, don't wait 2 friggin days to contact her.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (17 October 2012):

Honeypie agony auntMaybe she isn't a big texter?

I don't understand why anyone would carry on a "courtship" via text.. Call me old fashioned.

You waited 3 days... and all you did was text - so you expected a HUGE parade of a text back?

I agree with Cerberus you are reading WAY more into the text.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012):

You're reading so deeply into this that you've actually completely missed everything. "I was expecting a little bit more of a response, for example that she had a good time as well."

What part of "Thank you! It was a nice evening." don't you understand? That means she had a good time OP. She even put an exclamation mark after her 'thank you' kind tells me she really appreciated the night and that text. Besides did she not seem to have a good time when you were with her? Was it not a fun date?

"or something more expressive."

Jesus OP, like what? "The night had a tangible air of passion, I felt as if the moon had slid closer to the earth and the extra gravity caused our tides to collide and envelop us one in a hypnotic embrace" or "Thank you so much for the date, my god it was amazing, my labia moisten and knees tremble just thinking about it, Oh god I need you so badly, take me, take now!!!"

Give me a break OP, if you're going to over-analyse something then at least do it right. Those few simple words she sent you say she not only appreciated your text but also had a fun date with you. If you're looking for some over elaborate text to spell shit out to you in blatant terms she can't exactly be more obvious than what she sent, if you were hoping that she'd start gushing about how amazing it was then sorry to disappoint you but even a girl who is crazy about you from day one will play it as cool as hell. So stop freaking out, play it cool too and just arrange another date or start having some text conversations.

Seriously play it cool and stop reading into stuff. Until she tells you she's not interested or starts ignoring you outright then everything is fine. God help you if she starts playing hard to get, sounds to me like you'll give up at the first hurdle.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (17 October 2012):

kenny agony aunti think she is interested, it was only the first date, she said it was a nice evening, and thank you. After the first date maybe you don't want to come across to keen so something subtle such as what she wrote is fine. I think if she was not interested she would not have replied to your text. send her another text in a few days, or better still call her and ask her if she fancies going out again.

Good luck

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A male reader, SensitiveBloke United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2012):

SensitiveBloke agony auntYes her response does seem a little cool. However you need to text her again and ask whether she'd like to meet up again. Only then will you know for sure.

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