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writes:My boyfriend is clean, and we know that for sure. Him and I had our first experience together, and I gave him a blow job. When I was doing it, all went well, except he started to push my head down a little farther, which resulted in me starting to cough from choking. After a day or so, my throat started to hurt, and as the days go on, it still hurts. We had the experience on Wednesday, and today is Sunday. I've tried throat spray, saline spray, hot drinks, cold drinks, and a pain-killer liquid medicine. Know that I've never been able to swallow a pill, so I can't take pills. Does anyone know what this is/have any remedies? I need remedies to soothe the throat pain! Simple remedies though. Thanks for the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): I dont' think the strep throat and the bad BJ are unrelated. If the soft tissue at the back of your mouth/ throat was traumatised (i.e. with an abrasian) it leaves that area more open to infection. You still need to tackle the issue of your boyfriend shoving his cock down your throat and not just think "guess what, it was strep all along".
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 May 2012):
 Make sure you BF get his throat check out to or you two can pass that Strep back and forth, and Strep is no joke.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! The weirdest thing happened though, i was diagnosed with strep throat!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 May 2012):
A female reader, person12345 + ?, writes (27 May 2012):
The remedy is you stop giving this guy oral until he can treat you like a human instead of a hole.
AMEN!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 Tell your boyfriend to not push your head again when you give him oral sex. It's really something he shouldn't do, it is rude to do that. Unless you asked him to, and you enjoy it, a man should not push or hold your head during this act. You're the one performing, you are not another hole he should thrust in. But this mistake of his can be excused since it was the first time (if this is not his first time getting a blowjob then this is a sign that he is rude in bed).
So tell him to not touch or push your head again, unless you have invited him to do it. It is perfectly fine to stop, remove his hand, and then continue.
As for your throat. Since you have never been able to swallow a pill I will go ahead and guess that your throat is not used to this sort of treatment, not even in light versions (such as swallowing a pill), and as such reacts strongly. Drink tea with honey, avoid food with high acids in them (such as oranges, lemons etc). Sleep with a scarf on and don't shout, sing or talk too much. Give your throat some rest and you should be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2012): I agree with the other two answers - you should have been allowed to have been in control so that you took in as much as you could manage/felt comfortable and absolutely no more. Is it his first time at receiving a BJ? No one has ever tried to do that to me, but it's the sort of stuff that happens in some porn. Perhaps he's seen some porn actors doing it like that and thinks it's normal. I think you need to tell him how uncomfortable/ in pain you are, and don't let him put his hands anywhere near your head next time! Stay in control by being on top or whatever - but don't let him control the depth or even the pace. It's your mouth!
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 Does he watch too much porn? Because doing that sort of cruel thing has been popularised by porn where men gag and stifle a woman till she cries and throws up. Your throat will soon be okay but do you want to be with a guy who treats you like an object and disrespects you? Think about it.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 First thing I have to say is that I totally know how you feel about not being able to swallow pills. Well it definitely sounds like you may have some bruising. If he pushed in too far then it is very likely that the irritation will be enough to last for a week or so. None of those medications would do you any good for a physical irritation so you'll just have to wait it out. If it doesn't start to go away in a few days or it gets worse you should go she a doctor.
Advice for future blow jobs is to wrap your thumb and index finger around the point on his penis at the point where you want to take it into your mouth. This way it won't go too far when he starts to get excited.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 May 2012):
 The remedy is you stop giving this guy oral until he can treat you like a human instead of a hole. You a) need to make sure he knows in no uncertain terms that pushing your head down so you gag on his penis is never OK and b) if he tries it again stop the BJ immediately. Does he know you're still in pain from his selfish actions?It's one thing when a guy just places his hands on your head, so long as you are still 100% in control of how deep he gets to go. But actively pushing to the point of gagging is never OK. Blowjobs should not be about an ego/power trip for him. If you use your hands during (similar to giving a handjob) it will feel better for him and help to prevent him from pushing.
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