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writes:how do i keep from going back with my ex just for sex? That's really all I use him for, I don't know if he knows that. But every now and then I would text him to see if he wants to hang for a lil bit.. and of course he's a guy.. So of course he's going to say yes. I know if i wanted to have sex I could go to him for it because he would never say no unless he has a girlfriend. We stopped messing around for a month because he was in a realtionship. Now he's out of that one. And now whenever I want to make time for that I could. I need help saying no to myself when I have that urge to have sex with him.. Help Please! Thanks!
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Ahhh...I see your problem. Well my dear when you ask him if he needs a ride offer someone else a ride too and drop him off first, that will help with your gam situation. As for having the same class together...I'm sure you don't have sex in class and you have other friends in that class that you can talk to besides him right. If you really don't want to keep going back to him you have to be sure that you are not in a situation that will allow you to go back always keep other people around you. when you are home turn your phone off so you don't have the urge to text him. Figure out what you want to do with your life once you get out of high school. What college you will attend, will you dorm on campus or will you get a place off of campus. Focus on where you want to be five years from now. Will you still be living at home will you be living in another state. Focus on your goals and work towards them all of these issues should help you keep your mind off of him if you give it serious thought. Belive me you don't want to be 30 and still wondering what direction you want your life to be going in. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what you're saying but its kind of hard not to see him because we go to the same school (Which isn't that big)on top of that, we take a class together.. And he comes to my games and i always ended up asking if he needs a ride home and it goes from there.. (if you catch my drift).. I mean he might be using me too. But i don't see why he would because he's the type of guy that would mess around with any girl. So why is it that he will say yes to me? (It would be a lot easier if he said no). And hopefully this won't come back on because I think very hard about the guys I sleep with. (which isn't many)
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (1 February 2009):
When you have those urges try to occupy yourself with other things or call one of your girlfriends to see if she would like to hang. If he is not around you then you wont find yourself in that situation. Also consider how you would feel if someone you had deep feelings did that to you. The old saying...what goes around comes around is for real. Good luck I hope this helps.
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