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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:HelloI've been out of the dating world for a few months, not interested in anyone but recently there is this guy I really like. He heard me playing guitar and said it sounded like the radio, and offered to make me a CD of a singer I'd like. So I said I would love it, and I would give him a CD of my songs in exchange. Then he went and made this CD, and gave it to me, and I gave him mine too. The next time I saw him (day after we exchanged CDs) he was friendly but in a hurry. The weather was bad so he didn't turn up til later and then didn't stay long. Said he had to get on etc. We'd previously planned to do some work together (his suggestion) but he didn't mention that.Didn't mention the CD. I'm gutted, I think he doesn't like my songs and it's put him off. I tried to initiate conversation a couple of times and he was quite polite but firmly closing the conversation rather than extending it.Maybe he didn't even think it was a romantic gesture in the first place, and I took it too much to heart. Back in my day, if someone made you a mixtape, it was a signal they like you. Now I feel let down.Should I just forget it and move on? Was he just genuinely in a hurry?
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (24 May 2014):
 I wasnt aware that mix tapes or cds indicate liking someone. I dont believe he dislike the song selection either. He probaly was in a hurry also dont take it personal. Also if you want to find out whats the deal ask him how he feels ask questions get answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2014): If you two are currently just friends and there's no relationship as such, then he probably didn't consider the CD giving as a romantic gesture. And that's why he didn't comment much when you saw him when he was in a rush.
You might see making a song collection for somebody as romantic but he may not.
I'm sure that he hasn't "gone off" you just because he didn't like your taste in music. Even if he wasn't too keen on your taste in music. I doubt it would put him off if he's into you.
Just wait and see what happens
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (23 May 2014):
 Ahh the good old days:) Yes love was in the air when you got a mixed tape:)
With this guy, I would say it's too soon to tell if he has written you off. Maybe he was in a genuine hurry. If you don't hear from him in a few days, then you can assume he has lost interest. But I think it's too soon to panic.
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