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writes:I want to get married but my boyfriend shows no signs of committing. We have been living together for a year, dating for two... He talks about the future, initially spending it with me, wants a son and his daughter adores me, yet the idea of marriage or even a long engagement makes him scoff. is there a way i can convince him that getting married is best for us? or is this a dead end relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Actually I am 25,turning 26... Its a moral value for me, and we arent going different directions. We have ventured into several business deals together are in the process of buying a hotel together. For the record he is 38, in my experience men either settle down or stay unattached.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): I am the original poster... What I meant to say is... when the subject comes up, fxample my sisters wedding or people asking us when we are getting married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): you can convince him by not trying to convince him! Imagine you are him: why is his girlfriend so desperate to get married? Why is she in such a rush?
The more you push, the further away he will go. Subtly let him know that you would say yes if he asked, then back off. He may be completely scared. I've heard a few guys say that theres a three year rule. "If you can put up with her for three years than you can put up with her for the rest of your life". I know right? But I guess the point is that a year or two is just a tad too soon to make marriage official.
The fact that he talks about a future with you means he is committed, so give him time. After all, why rush into the rest of your life?
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