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*aydilla11
writes:I have a situation going on currently at this time.. I started talking to my ex-fiance about about a month and a half ago, and everything was going fine we talked and went out a couple of times made out and everything seemed fine.Then all of a sudden she started to seem distant and i noticed it immediately she would not talk to me as regularly and it got worst, but then a few weeks ago we started talking again.During our conversation she mentioned she cannot get over the trust issues in our past and that she cannot make a decision, and she told me that this is the reason she is being so distant..She Also told me she loved me and that only time will tell on where our relationship will go, i replied to her that it was fine i understand and that i am ok with her taking her time.But now the problem is that i have not heard from her in a week and a half, and i am just wondering is this a sign that she made her decision and what exactly should i do? Should i just leave it alone and see if she calls or do i just leave her alone and move on with my life? or should i call her and ask her whats going on? I would really like to have good advice on how to handle this situation.
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reader, mellie02  +, writes (8 August 2012):
Hi there,
I have similar experience with my ex and i can honestly tell you that your ex-fiance is really confused with her feelings for you right now. Though she may still be in love with you,she needs to forgive and forget about the past trust issues and this is the tricky part. Until she can put everything behind, it will be a difficult and confusing future for the both of you.
Trust is really a fragile thing, once broken it really takes a lot to glue them back together (if she had other trust issue in her past relationships then it would be even more difficult for her to get over- that's what happend to me)but if u really love her then dont give up yet-contact her, show her you still care and that you do want a future with her. Earn back that trust! and it will not be an easy task, trust me- but if you think she is worth it then give it your all, hold nothing back- pursue her thoroughly and if she still cannot get past the trust issue then let her tell u its really over then you can move on with your life. Dont waste any more of your time if she really cant get past the issue as it will always be there haunting u guys in the future!
Best of luck!
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