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writes:My guy will be gone for thirteen weeks on a job trip. It's a big opportunity and I'm proud of him :) I know I'll miss him though and I have my fears. I fear he'll fall for someone there and maybe forget me. I don't know what to think, we've been dating for a year and a half and I care for him and I know he cares for me but he's a magnetic man and being in new surroundings can be tempting...ugh, I sound so insecure and I hate it. That aside, I want to do something to show him how proud I am, I was thinking of a care package to take with him and maybe, even taking him out on the town, an helicopter ride. I love him like crazy and I've never told him, I wonder if I should tell him? So many things are going through my mind now that he's leaving...How can I make sure that we keep our bond strong? What can I give him to make his trip easier?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (7 July 2011):
 If it makes you feel better, We were 2 years apart. That was back before email and internet chatting. We got by on one letter a week for over 100 weeks. We were both in your age range at the time.
So yes it can be done. Yes send a care package. Send one every month. Build him up, don't give him reason to wish he wasn't there. Make sure he knows every week that you are proud of what he is doing. Never give him reason to think you are lonely and desperate without him. IE if you go out with the girls, go shopping, not to a club.
I am a little curious that you have dated him for 18 months but you are still hiding your feelings for him. Seems strange to me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 July 2011):
 it's about 3 months... and it sucks BUT it can be great for you when it's over...
1. you have to trust him... let him go do not expect him to be in your face all day calling texting or skyping... save that for maybe a good morning wake up call and a bedtime call... that's what my bf and I do when we are apart (we live in different states and are apart most of the week every week)
2. make sure you keep the lines of communication open...
3. this is a short term thing for work or schooling and sounds like it will be good for him... often for men btw being apart makes them realize how much they love you... give him a chance to really miss you...
it will go faster than you think.
btw there is great support for this at www.lovingfromadistance.com
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (7 July 2011):
If you are both truly in love with each other - you will be loyal and faithful as well as counting down the days until you see each other again!
It's only if there is some doubt in the relationship that things could go wrong.
I am in an LDR and am truly devoted to my man and havn't looked elsewhere in 3 years!
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