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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend cheated on me while i was pregnant with our 3rd child with his friend sister. He paid her money for oral sex, he told me about it a week after it happened and it broke me up inside, he says he is sorry and has shown it but i need to let him know how much it hurt me. I do not have family to talk to. how can i cope and let him understand the damage he did to my self esteem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice, so a little advice for some of you. when some one ask a question on her and they are feeling hurt dont make it worser by telling them they are low, if we had an answer we would not be on here. Thanks again everyone for you positive advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): Look... whatever you do, do NOT make decisions now, whilst you are upset and angry. It will only lead to you feeling a million times worse. The chief thing to do here is forgive the man. You don't have to forget, but every person deserves two chances.
If we make a dumb decision, then it's what we do with that second chance that shows if we trully feel remorse.
And unlike Sage, torturing the douche makes YOU even worse. Just because you are hurt, it doesn't give you the right to hurt back.
I would, as I have said, give him a last chance. And I mean a last chance. If he cheats again... out the door without the slightest hesitation.
We all make mistakes and we decent types deserve a chance to make amends. Its the ones who don't learn that you need to avoid.
Flynn 24
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (3 January 2012):
 Honey, he cheated on you while you were PREGNANT with HIS child. Do you honestly think he gives a rat's ass about your feelings? If you do, feel free to delude yourself some more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): you vote with your feet. you walk out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): "he says he is sorry and has shown it but i need to let him know how much it hurt me."
"how can i cope and let him understand the damage he did to my self esteem?
Stop being a doormat and stand up for yourself FOR ONCE. Don't keep letting him get away with inexcusable behavior, which is exactly what you're doing when you keep taking him back and letting him knock you up again every time he says "he's sorry" for inexcusable behavior.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Here's what you do.... you show this (my) submittal to him.... OK????
Dear sperm-donator: You got to knock up your girlfriend, then you chose to break her heart by being an as**ole by having a fling whilest she was carrying your baby.... IN order to make up for your STUPID indescretion, how about kissing her a*s, every day - and any other time she requests - for the rest of you life? Do EVERY household chore she requests.... and put her on a pedestal... because, if she doesn't castrate you, then you have really come out of this matter in a pretty good state....
Geeeesh, how izzit that you young guys can be such JERKS???
Good luck, female....
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