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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. He is very into me and so am I. However, he cannot drive, doesn't own a car, has little money and at the moment, has no job either. I, on the other hand, can drive, have a car and work almost full time hours. He lives a few minutes drive from me and we try to see each other as much as possible. It is generally good fun and we have an amazing time, but because I tend to be the one driving, and I am beginning to get fed up with it. In addition to all this, when we go out together, he just buys food and drink for himself. He doesn't even offer to pay. I understand his limited finances but surely he can spend on me occasionally, if not often! Mum dislikes him too, they don't get on and it's adding extra pressure on me. I don't know what to do, but his character and personality is attractive and I don't want to separate. Please help.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 October 2011):
 is he looking for a job?
has he ever worked?
why does he not drive? (there ARE valid reasons but there are also NOT vailid reasons)
IF you are dating and having fun with him and his lack of funds and mobility are wearing on you now what do you think will happen later on? (hint: it gets worse)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I agree with the anonymous poster - unless it looks likely that he will change his situation soon, then end it now.
There are plenty of men out there with great personalities who you will have an amazing time with, but what matters is whether you can build a future together or not. If he isnt applying for jobs, or learning to drive, or doing anything in fact to change his situation then clearly he doesnt care enough about himself to make his life better, which is not a good sign for the future.
However if he is applying for jobs etc and making some changes, then stick with him and see what happens. You need to see some effort from him to make things happen - if he is lazy and cant be bothered well that says it all really!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): Unless you think he really has potential to better himself soon, get a job, learn to drive and so on it would be better to separate because you could become very attached to him but never be satisfied with this situation.
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