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30-35,
*adeybaby
writes:Hi,I have been with my boyfriend nearly 5 months. We see each other 1-2 times a week on average.The past 3 weeks, we have only seen one another twice, as he has cancelled on me numerous times.I asked him about it, and he just said he had a lot on his mind. The amount of texts he sends me has reduced to about 3 a day (and considering we're not seeing one another much, 3 doesn't seem an awful lot).Last week I caught him 'liking' other girls pictures on Facebook who were barely wearing anything. I got jealous and paranoid and ended up kicking off. To which he said I was overreacting.The whole time we've been together, he has never changed his relationship status. It still says single, which bothers me. His reason for not changing it is 'He doesn't have enough time'-but he has enough time to like other girls pictures?I text him on Saturday saying that I don't think we are working anymore, but he begged me to stay with him and that he would change. But he hasn't...if anything he's got worse. Being cheated on in the past i'll admit has made me overly paranoid and insecure, but I don't feel what he's doing is completely right? This may be completely out of context, but I haven't slept with him yet, could that be a reason he's losing interest? Shall I just give up and move on before it gets too serious?Thank you in advancex
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (18 October 2011):
From a guy's perspective, the lack of sex could definitely be causing him to lose interest. 5 months in a relationship is, relatively speaking, quite a long time to wait for intimacy. I'm not suggesting you should necessarily have sex with your boyfriend or that it will fix some of these issues if you did, but I can see where he doesn't feel it is a "relationship" yet without sex.
Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 October 2011):
 I agree that if he was in a relationship with you he would have "in a relationship" at bare minimum on his facebook status...
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (18 October 2011):
He doesn't see you as his girlfriend.
If he did, he wouldn't have "single" as his relationship status.
I think that is the bottom line.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2011): I can understand your worries and even if you hadn't been cheated on I think most women would agree that a boyfriend who appears single on fb who takes the time to look at and like half naked girls would cause problems, so to have you insecurities just makes this worse for you. That kind of guy is better off single then he is upsetting no one with this kind of behaviour. Some people are quite relaxed when it comes to their bf looking at women, I am no means controlling in a relationship it's quite the opposite but if my partner had began our relationship like this I would have been gone!
I think you know in your heart this relationship isn't right for you. If he is losing interest due to no sex then he is a loser, if he cared he would be happy to wait.
In answer to should you end this before it gets more serious, I think you are right. Be strong and when he is begging for a chance look at all you wrote here to remind yourself of why he is not good enough to deserve you. Good luck x
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