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writes:Boyfriend talked about us needing more space, arranged a viewing on a house, we went to see it with his son who was really excited. Commenting on all the rooms, we could use this for this, the gardrn would be perfect for that etc. Talked about it for a couple of hours after, went to see his friend, told him jow awesome it was, came back to his place, he asked me what I thought of it, I said I wasn't sure what he was asking, was it a place for him and his kids where I can visit, or is he asking me to move in with him? He said he's not asking anything yet, everything is going so fast, it all just happened, it's a roller coaster. I was quite shocked and upset by his response. What should I do now? Is he backing off? I asked him why he wanted me to see the flat, he said it all just happened. I'm confused. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (12 May 2015):
 Don't worry!
It sounds to me like he expects you will move in there at some point in the future, as your relationship progresses.
For the time being, it's a place he will live in with his son, and obviously he wants you to like the place too, especially if you do move in with him one day.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 May 2015):
 I agree. He wanted your input on the place, NOT to ask you to move in. Sometimes it helps having someone who ISN'T so invested in a home along with you to point out the good and the bad.
We had my BIL with us last time we looked at houses, NOT because we want him to move in, but to have an extra opinion.
How long have you been dating?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 May 2015):
 I am not sure,but I think that he is not exactly backing off, it's just sort of a misunderstanding. Is this a fairly new r/ship ?
He is obviously not asking you anything YET, he just got excited and carried away at the idea of the new place , and just wanted to involve you and ask yout opinion and show it to you because you ARE his partner and are involved in his life. AS if, say, he was going with you for a new car , he might share his enthusiasm, and his plans for future trips - but that would not mean that he wants to actually share the car itself with you.
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