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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we're long distance at the moment but see each other every weekend. Last night he went out with his work colleagues but called me after an hour saying he was bored and going home... we spoke on the phone for about 3-4 minutes and then he said he'll text when he gets home.Within 30 seconds of putting the phone down he said 'Im not being funny but it blatently sounds like you're with someone'. I am completely baffled, I was lying in bed watching TV and completely innocent in this whole thing. He said I sounded weird answering the phone and didnt want to talk long. That was last night and this morning hes blunt and distant with me still. Its pathetic.I havent given him a reaction because I havent done anything, but should I leave him to come round and or should I say something?
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reader, gundam007 +, writes (5 February 2012):
I'm glad that you've taken the time to search for answers. Search the internet more, and do not become a victim. You sound like a really kind person.
Anyway, as you search more, you'll learn that often accusations come from someone who is guilty themselves. If you don't want to leave, get ready to defend yourself. He sounds very immature, or can at least become immature at times. Was he drinking? Is he worse when he is?
Tell him you can't put up with that crap because it's hard enough seeing each other only on weekends, and his behavior isn't helping. Besides, jealously and wild accusations really kill the mood. Encourage him to be the man you hope he is, and give him space if he won't grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Ask him why he thought that. It could be that he has trust issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): "Its pathetic."
Yup very much so.
"should I leave him to come round" The question is what would that achieve? What would he learn from that other than he can be pathetic to you and get away with it? Do you really want a pathetic boyfriend?
OP the biggest mistake people make in relationships is the things they let slide.
Do not let this slide, come down hard on this and nip it in the bud. Be firm but gentle if you know what I mean but make it very clear to him you won't stand for being accused of things like that when you did nothing wrong. He owes you an apology for the accusation and the way he's acted afterwards and an assurance that he won't do it again.
OP this must be the last time you let him get away with this. You either stand up to him or you become a doormat to him, your choice. If he does this again, then that's even more pathetic and you really need to walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): he his a jerk. and he doesnt even deserve your love if he cannot trust you. for me trust is everything in a relationship.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (2 February 2012):
 I would leave him. It is so silly from square one. However, the cheating thing is incredibly silly.
Leave him and find someone that is not long distance.
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