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writes:i just need some advice. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and were both young. hes a senior and im in college. his ex girlfriend has been spreading nonsense about him around his school making it hard for him to make any friends. so i stepped in (i regret) and i basically stopped it all and had them on good terms. in the beginning i told him it was so they could be on good terms and only be casual acquaintances. two days ago i was unable to talk with him on his way home so he said to me "if you dont talk to me im just gonna walk with Jenny(fake name for his ex girlfriend)" so i replied to him "i dont like that" in a calm voice and told him a bit irritated sounding to do what he wants but i trusted he wouldnt walk with her and he did but he also stayed at her house for an hour talking with her. i was upset and angry because i told him in advance how i felt and in the beginning that i wouldnt like that stuff. i broke up with him because he did not consider my feelings and i felt he disrespected me. so the first person he told was jenny, that we broke up. so that made me even more mad that he went to her of all people, even though i know he didnt have anyone else to go to because he doesnt have alot of friends because of her. so the next day, yesterday, he said i was being controlling because i tell him who to and not to talk to, and thats not true at all. i dont like him talking for a long time with her and hanging out with her, only her. but in the end it resolved itself and we were fine and he promised me he would not talk to her. but while he was in the shower he got a phone call from his dad and a text from his step dad, but its below his step dads message i found alot of text messages between jenny and him, and he told her i said i dont want him talking to her earlier that day and that event though i wont let them they would talk sometimes. i was pissed and as he came in the room i blew up because it was so obvious jenny likes him now and hes constantly texting her to walk with him and hang out with him at school. i feel stupid. he flipped the script and got mad at me for going through his phone but when at the same time he does it to me. so we argued and he broke up with me, but for some stupid reason i asked him to stay. so were together but something doesnt feel right, i feel like im having a hard time to trust him. Also in the first year he lied to me on several accounts about still liking her. a year later he admitted to completely being over her. i dont know what to do, she wont stop texting him and she myspaced him and god knows if shes approaching him at school. what should i do?
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reader, patient66  +, writes (23 September 2009):
Hello :)
Ok ya this stituation sucks.The ex's usually are trouble. but here's the thing I have to say he is acting insensative to you. He got mad that you find that text because in a way you caught him.
If he wanted things to work between you and him he would make the effort to understand your feelings. He is not telling his ex that he is not interested in her romantically.(
Main there here is that this prob won't stop. I would tell him How you feel about him talking to his ex and how that makes you uncomfortable. If that doesnt work then leave. The stress of worrying and him going to his ex's house is soooo not worth it.
You can find someone else that will care for you more and not want to keep his ex in the picture still.
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