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writes:Hey guys! im 17 male and i believe i am attracted to men since i was a kid. I grew up normally like a usual straight guy would. I have lots of friends on both genders. I fell in love with my best friend (a girl) when I was 15. I had some weird man-crushes on other upperclassmen. Here's one confusing part for me: I am attracted to pretty women physically but it seems i don't get excited sexually. I do like to have a relationship with women, i can have sex with them if i wanted to, but it seems i can't get 'it' up, if you know what i mean. On the other hand, i like men too both physically and sexually. -Am i bisexual or gay?Other than that, i would like to ask for opinions and insights about being gay guy: I believe i am perfectly straight in terms of mannerism, and i don't deny the fact that i do like men. Am I an alien? I mean, do all gay men actually have certain effeminate actions, movements, or way of talking? Or there others who're like me?
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reader, aim +, writes (13 September 2007):
aim is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hmmm. Wow. I thought i was so alone on this - being bisexual yet having a greater preference to men. I also cant believe us "straigt gay men" actually existed. :-) Thanks for the insights! ;)
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reader, teenguy161  +, writes (13 September 2007):
I feel kind of same way you do. With women, it is all about who they are, and with men it is both ways. I think it is because we are bisexual but with a preference for men.
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reader, jaimeamour22  +, writes (13 September 2007):
hi , im jaime im 26 i have twins that are nine, an ex-wife who is a babe in italy, an ex-husband in egypt...It's like this, well for me it is, I love women. I love kissing them and sleeping with them, but I'm gay. I love guys and sex with guys. Confession: yeah, I'm a straight gay man. I have just left my first gay relationship that lasted three years and I loved him.I loved the women but it was a different kinda love, if that makes sense. Women are beautiful. And, yeah the sex was great, but I know I'm more into guys physically. Mentally, I still love women.It's very confusing issues with sexuality. Just take it one step at a time, but please dont marry. It's an escape to finding more trouble. And please, respect whoever it is you love, male or female. Don't cheat on either sex. Try being honest and open if you really care about that person, as it generally works.xxx jaime
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Dude i say your bisexual because you like both genders.Later Man
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Some gay men fit into the effeminate stereotype, most of them don't. They're tall, short, butch, girly, thin, fat, charming, obnoxious - you name it. The only thing they have in common is that they like men.
For the rest of it, I can't tell you what your sexuality is. It sounds as though you're probably bi, but who knows? Just keep an open mind and see whom you fall in love with. Everything goes. Enjoy yourself and don't worry.
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