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writes: I need a guys perspective on this one...I was a very self concious pre-teen, I always hid in the shadows because I was afraid of what people would think of me. But as I got older I became more confident in myself, and for once I am now happy in my own skin...I haven't dated since the 6th grade, but even then they did not last long, the boys were much too immature to take anything seriously... But I am now getting back onto the "dating scene" and I was wondering what younger guys are looking for now days. I have no intention of changing myself for some guy, I am who I am and I like it, but I am just curious... In the real world it's kind of hard to just walk up to some strange guy and be like "what do you look for in a woman?" which is why I love this site so much! :) All comment welcome!!Thank You, Ms. Independant...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): But you know, the majority of boys back when I was in grade 10 and 11 wanted attention from people in general. So having a girlfriend gave everyone the mentality that the boy and girl are having sex, or at the very least, dating. Though it happens commonly in high school - dating, etc, the bulk of students in a high school don't have gfs/bfs. So it's like having a trophy commodity to show off, though it's not solely the reason.
I think boys in general want someone who want to look good with. For those who don't and genuinely want a gf who is nice, sweet, and everything in between, then I applaud them. One of the reasons I hated high school was the bf/gf drama involved for in-crowd groups. At that age, it was disgusting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): I am the one who posted this question...
I was a very mature kid, i grew up way to fast due to the fact that i had to deal with cancer when i was very young. When i was in the 6th grade (i was 12) my bf was in the 10th grade (15 y/o)... he was pressuring me into things i did not want to to so i broke it off. I completly understand what you said about boys in the 6th grade...
I am 14 now, 15 in a few months, and although that sounds young i have had strangers walk up to me and tell me how mature i am, and how i look (and act) like i am closer to 18... I wish i could have been a kid like everyone else, but i had bigger things to deal with....
anyways, thank you for your replies mr. anon & martini! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): You haven't dated since the 6th grade... And you said that it didn't last long because they were way too immature... Hmmm... Well, at 10 or 11 years of age, I believe that boys are umm, missing something. I believe, and someone please correct me if I am wrong, that they are missing umm, life, experience, learned intelligence, refined characteristics, defined talents, ummm... Individualisation possibly, mmm, for one thing, maturity, mental, spiritual, and physical development, hmm... What else? Anyone would like to add to my list?
You speak of the real world... What IS the real world? High school? Heck, high school is like preschool compared to 'the real world'. Back in the day, I though high school sucked, but that's another story. When I got out, wow, that's when LIFE REALLY BEGINS.
Of course, that's not what you want to hear, here.
Let me think, I am guessing you are between grade 8 and 10. How was I like when I was 14 to 16? Well, I don't know. I was a rebel nerd in school... The girls I was interested in had big eyes, pony tails, and loved vball... Hmm... I just realized that. Wow only after 11 or so years later! 8] What's up with that?
Oh wait, your question is, "What do young guys look for nowadays?" Oops... [laughs] I'm neither young nor old... [pouts]
-MisterMartiniDon'tDrinkTooMuch'Former'RebelNerd
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): I look for a woman who can hold an intelligent conversation. There is nothing worse than being with someone who has nothing interesting to say. Communication is a cornerstone of any relationship, so whereas other things are important too, this one is pretty high on my list.
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