A
female
age
36-40,
*oldengirl88
writes:At what point can you no longer justify a relationship? marriage? There is this old saying that love is not enough, how many of you believe this?For example, i have witnssed a couple risk their children's lives by driving dangerously because they were argueing, the husband in question had cheated twice, one an emotional affair over the internet and the other emotional and physical.At what point do we draw the line and move on even though we still love the person?For you guys out there what would make you leave even though you still loved the person, when is enough enough?
View related questions:
affair, move on, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): If someone hurts you again and again,wont stop lying,betraying or any other form of abuse,then you find the feelings you have for them eventually fade away.
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 Once a person has done enough harm to a relationship the question is not would you leave if you still loved them... because they have killed the love....
Lies are deal breakers
cheating is deal breaking
abuse is deal breaking
but all of these things are love killers....
I left my first marriage due to emotional abuse... I could have stayed...
I left the second disaster due to physical abuse,lies, cheating and drug use
My third marriage ended by mutual consent but I was no longer happy.... he was having emotional affairs, he was never present in the marriage and he SAID he loved me but he never SHOWED ME...
the man I'm with now... there is love but it's a slow comfortable love... not the hot passion folks think of.... there are major disagreements but there is HONESTY and OPENNESS and that will make this work better than pretending we are madly passionately in love.
so to recap
no to abuse
no to lies
no to cheating
no to illegal drug use
love cannot conquer all..... and there are cases of loving someone doing the stuff above where you would probably give them a second or even a third chance but eventually distrust and deceit KILL love.
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 Love just simply is not enough to keep a relationship or marriage together. Cheating to me shows that the person can't love there partner as well as they say they do or else they would not risk hurting them the way that cheating does. Cheating to me breaks a relationship and causes it to go down hill fast.
...............................
A
female
reader, kate28 +, writes (13 November 2011):
I think sticking it out in a marriage is very important, but I would leave if my husband were abusive to me or my children. If he were willing to work on it and go to counseling I would be willing to continue to try to work on the marriage, but would need to separate myself from the abusive situation immediately.
Continued drug/alcohol abuse would also be a deal breaker for me.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): Enough is enough when it constantly repeats. I have left a long relationship through online dating which spanned 5 years. The relationship is well and truly over,but her online life lives on. Online relationships are the same as cheating. I have even seen it where my ex was angry because he wasnt on line as arranged. When your feelings are ridiculed and ignored,they will diminish.
...............................
|
