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writes:I asked a man out...which I don't often do..by email. And I've heard nothing back. I'm not wondering about rejection but moreThat is he somewhere laughing at me?Guys would you be thinking "this girl is a loser?". Backstory...We are in the same industry and knew people in common. We emailed a few times and he usually wrote right back. Then we met once briefly. Yes he's kinda out of my league (financially mostly) I'm not unattractive or anything but I'm sure heDates mostly supermodels :(Please honest opinions here...thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): You've all been helpful. I just think he doesn't take it seriuosly :(
It's ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): I am so lost in the love department. Maybe he just doesn't take me
Seriously or ignoring me is his way of being nice.
if he really liked me he would have replied by now so that's that
Thanks for help guys!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Pat yourself on the back for being brave enough to ask him out and let the rest go. He didn't respond, who knows why, but it doesn't mean that you aren't dateable! It just means he's rather rude.
Had you spent a lot of time together in person?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): I know it sounds silly to think he'd laugh at me...I have not the greatest self esteem and Im not use to this kind of action. Because of his status I just worry he thinks how could this lowly girl think she's good enough for me?
But if he did think that he's kinda a jerk right? And it wouldnt matter anyway ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): Why would he laugh at you? If you have met briefly once then perhaps he decided your not his type, but I am sure he won't laugh about you asking him out.
If he dates high profile women then perhaps he isn't used to being approached for dates via email - or expect it - he would have given them his number if he was interested or got theirs.
Just put it down to experience or be patient - if he has even got round to checking his emails yet, there's still time.Hes probably a busy man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): Thanks all!I wrote last night so we'll see... Good points.Thing is he is well known and has dated high profile peopleWhich was why I was so taken a back that he seemed interested in talking to me in the first place.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 February 2012):
 You are sure he dates SUPERMODELS? SEAL dates supermodels.. most men date regular women. You have this guy on some pedestal don’t you?
Why did you ask him out via EMAIL. Asking for dates should be done by phone or in person.. never leave important stuff to emails or texts.
I doubt he's laughing at you.... when did you send this email?
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (7 February 2012):
 Never mind if that gives him a good laugh..you were spontaneous ...and need not repent your actions..if he doesn't reply may be you can give him a call and ask for a reply..and remember relationships begin with looks but looks are not enough to sustain a relationship..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): You were courageous, and you went after what you want, and then... SILENCE.
You say you are not worried about rejection, but more that he may be laughing at you. Why?
I doubt he or anybody else would laugh if asked out. On the contrary, it would be an ego boost. Remember, there are many possibilities here: he may not have received the email yet... he may not have had time to give it the proper attention he wants to give it... he may be in a situation he needs to resolve before he gets back to you.
It's an anxious time full of nervous tension as you wait for his response, but try to think positive. Give him time... 3 days. Then you can always ask if he received it, to just acknowledge it even if he is not interested, so that you will know. It's the right and courteous thing to do.
I doubt any guy would think a girl is a loser, for asking him out. Especially as you say you know people in common, you've emailed a few times in the past, etc.
He may have any number of reasons why he has not replied. He may not know how to respond. Give him the grace to respond. Keep your head high, that you showed interest, and if he isn't, it's his loss.
Don't allow the little voice inside your head to get carried away with you, with the negative thoughts. Rather, think of what an opportunity he has, and you hope he takes it, but if not, there are other fish in the sea who will be grateful for your invitation.
Money may make the world go around, but you can't buy happiness with it. So even if he is more financially well off than you, would be no reason for him not to be interested.
Give it time, then check he got it, and get your YES/NO. If it's yes, hooray for you. If it's no, remember, guys do that all the time too, and they live with the rejection and move on to the next available person who gets to win their affection and attention.
Good luck, and wishing you happiness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): I doubt he's laughing at you. You just feel that because you feel a bit unsure of having asked him out. Let it go. Don't contact him regarding his non response. You could make out that it was just a spontaneous thing and you are not bothered about it. No doubt he likes you, but maybe not in the 'going on a date' way.
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