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anonymous
writes:My Situation: My girlfriend is 18 and I'm 21. We've been going out now for about 1 year. When we first met, she told me that she only had sex with one other person who she said was an awful lover and that she never liked to have sex with him. Also when we first met, we started having sex instantly. We would have sex at least 3 times a week. We would try everything, every position. She would go down on me whenever it was her period or any other time she was sore from having sex the night before. She always tried to keep me satisfied. She was always a passionate kisser also. She told me that sex with me way 1000 times better than with her ex and that she loved doing anything with me. Now everything is different, as time went on, we started having sex less and less. She would complain about going down on me. I am not selfish at all, by the way. I always try foreplay on her first. She has been on the pill the whole time we've been together, she is not worried about becoming pregnant. She is completely disinterested in sex. If i try to touch her at all, she says that she feels uncomfortable. She doesn't even like to kiss anymore(she says that her lips will get chapped). She doesn't like to be touched and she doesn't like to touch me. She comes up with ridiculous excuses all the time for why she doesn't want to do anything. Always says she not in the mood. Its to the point where we have sex only twice a month and I always have to initiate and although she gets really in to it, she never wants to have sex. It seems almost like she is repulsed by me. Almost like the very thought of me touching her grosses her out or something. Another thing is that she's very overprotective of me, she doesn't even want me to look at other girls. She calls me all the time and is obsessed with me otherwise. She is emotionally attached to me and always tells me that she loves me and if i ever try to end things, she cries and tells me that she can't live without me. I've told her how unhappy I am without a sexual relationship and she just won't open up about it and makes me feel guilty by saying it's all I want. I hang out with her every single day, so it is apparent that I don't use her for sex. I don't understand what her problem is, I really need help. I always make her feel good about her self, I always tell her how beautiful I think she is, I take her out to dinner at least two times a week and I am definitely not a selfish lover. She always tells me that I am "insensitive" to her if I ask for sex. She doesn't want me to masturbate or ever look at other girls. Why would she suddenly become disinterested in sex and repulsed by the very thought of any physical relationship with me but still be so emotionally attached and overprotective of me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): Anonymous, I am having a similar problem with my girlfriend. We have talked about it and she says that she still want to be with me but the thought of physical contact makes her uncomfortable. We never have sex anymore, and she won't even change in the same room as me anymore. Neither of us can figure out why she is feeling this way. Can you please tell me what you have tried and if anything has changed. Thanks.-Hopeful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): it is because you see her all the time, she never gets to miss you and appreciate you.
Now she has you, she no longer has to make an effort. Try a few days apart, absence, hearts and jane fonda!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): it might be the side effects of the pills
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