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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been going out with this wonderful girl for almost 4 months now and I'm beginning to get confused. After like a month I told her I loved her, I was pretty sure that I did. She thought it was way too early to talk about love and I agreed, so we continued to date. As the months went by, my feelings only grew stronger. It wasn't until just recently that she said she loved me back. She says she's completely in love with me, which made me really happy. But soon after she said it, I began to get scared. I'm not even sure if I love her anymore. She's the most amazing girl I've ever met, she's perfect for me. She's beautiful, she's incredibly nice, sweet and sensitive. Does this mean I'm getting bored of her? I ask myself if I want to be with her and I can honestly answer that yes I do, but something still makes me want to just end it...I don't know why. I'm happy when I'm around her but when I'm away from her I just can't decide if I really love her or not. I used to get so jealous about other guys and now I'm not jealous at all. I used to want to impress her and her friends and her family but now I don't care as much. What I really just need to know is, is it possible to want to be with someone but not like them? Or is it possible to want to love someone and not anymore? Because I definately did at one point but I can't decide if I just got bored or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): You present as male between 13-15, living in the USA.
I think your age has a lot to do with this situation and your feelings are perfectly normal for your male your age.
Your growing up, your becoming a man. Your just at that stage between childhood and manhood. You like this girl, that's obvious, you think she's something special. But then again sometimes you start thinking about the freedom and enjoyment you have just being alone and doing the things you've always done. Puberty (biological teenage growth) dosen't help. I bet your emotions are all haywired at the moment. You love her, you don't, you want to be with her, you don't.
Personally I'd find the whole thing too draining. Can you put off any decision for the moment and just continue as you are. If you can't and you need to sort this thing out, then write a list of all the things you like about her and why you should be with her, then write another list about why you don't like her and shouldn't be with her. Good luck. I'd be interested to hear more from you later about how your getting on.
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