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36-40,
anonymous
writes:so im bi and me and some girl were messing around for 6 months but never really dated because she never wanted to. Throughtout does 6 months she also messed around with a lot of guys and i never said anything about it. After all that time i finally got tired of it and decided to give up but we both keep going back to each other and its hard to reject her. Now as bad as i want to move on i cant. I keep thinking she'll recognize that im good for her that i love her and i keep wishing she'll change. But nothing happens. What should i do to make her realize i was the one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Thats the thing. With her theres no way we can talk if we text about it she just doesnt reply if we're on the phone she ignores me if we're in person she makrs it an arguement. She always finds her way out of it. She met a new girl two days ago and she and mow have something going on and yet she tells ,e she loves me. /3
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reader, Andeulea +, writes (4 June 2011):
 I think that you made a mistake, by not ever really saying anything about her having sex with guys while the two of you were together. It would have made the impression that, if you knew about it and didn't discuss your issues with it, that it was okay for her to do it - and keep doing it. Instead of having given up, that should have been the point for you to discuss your true feelings on the topic. I'm pansexual, so I know what it's like to have a sexuality that can be geared toward multiple genders, and that many people with such sexualities take them differently. Some, may be have a single partner of whichever gender, while others may want multiple partners of multiple genders. Like with any relationship, regardless of sexuality, your feelings on whether or not the relationship should be open should be one of the first topics. One that should be concluded before the relationship deepens.All hope is certainly not lost. If you genuinely love this woman, don't sit around waiting for her to come running back to you, when your break up was based on your dislike for her personal preferences. Instead, go to her, and have that discussion that you should have had before. The two of you can only have your relationship if you respect one another.
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