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writes:i am very sad crying all the tears in my body, didnt realise i could cry that much.. they just keep flooding my cheeks.. i am in love with my boyfriend, in 6months i am leaving him and going back to my own country to get married, arranged... i cannot do it. i am on a student visa that ends in 6 months, n i cannot renew it, my parents will not suupport me to do that..i would go back and get married if i didnt love my boyfriend.we both knew the score when we started dating, we just fell for each other, we have been trying to find ways around it,... there is nothing. i tried breaking up with my boyfriend to make it easier, but he will not let me, so we both decided to spend as much time as possible together.. he is moving in with me.it hurts so much, it hurts to see him hurting.. i would seriously kill anybody who hurt him, what do i so when it's me hurting him?well i've decided i will enjoy whatever time i have left with him, go back n see my parentd, i love them, am not getting married to someone i do not like, over my dead body.... and so it will be. i have nothing to fight for,it's over Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): you need to break away from your parents, it will be hard but they WILL accept you and respect your decision eventually. as LizzieLowe said, apply for a visa yourself and try to raise the money to pay for it. you can do it!!! if you go back to your own country you will be treated like an object & will have NO say in whether you get married or not once you get there, I guarantee you that.
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 You do know that(assuming you have a visa in america) that if youi marry your boyfriend in america you dont need a visa to stay in the country.
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reader, LizzieLowe +, writes (27 January 2008):
You need to take a deep breath, calm down and make a list of your options. There is no point in panicking and getting all upset....you either do what you can to make yourself happy or you go along with what has been planned for you. You can apply to the Home Office to have your Visa extended - I'm sure you will be aware of this. The application apparently takes 4 -14 weeks to go through. I think it costs £250 - if your boyfriend loves you that much I am sure you can get jobs between the two of you to raise the money and pay for it.
You are old enough to stand on your own two feet and do what you have to do...even if it's getting a job in the local supermarket to raise the money. Anything is possible these days....if you speka to your parents and explain...they may soften and change their minds. If you don't ask, you don't get!!
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reader, jamey_37 +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Simply. All I'm saying here is.... Fight for love. You DO have something to fight for. You have LOVE to fight for. LOVE!!! That emotion is one of God's greatest and most precious gift to us, his children.
Don't kill yourself for it though.... sad to say.. but.. you're boyfriend most likely will feel guilty about it.
Fight for it. Do not let it go.
I'm Jamie Williams.. and I believe in Love.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 You knew what would happen when you started dating. You could try to talk to your parents in a last ditch efforts. If all else fails, you will have to accept your destiny.Have you met your future husband yet?.He may not be a bad guy.
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