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*lphamale
writes:Hi, Me and my GF had an argument over the weekend over how much we see each other. we've been dating for about 4 months and we see each other exclusively on the weekends even though we live in the same town. I'm fine with that since we both work long hours during the week and it's tough to see each other during weekdays, but we stay in touch via text or phone calls.this weekend she basically said we were seeing each other EVERY weekend, with negative connotations. She told me she felt a little "overwhelmed" and asked me if we could see each other every other weekend! Of course all the alarms went off by that request. If she likes me, which she said she does, then how the heck is seeing each other on the weekends too much? She dismissed me as being "insecure", I asked her to give me a good reason why was that a problem, of course she didnt have an answer other than she felt a little "asphixiated" by me. Is this a cause of concern? is there someone else knocking on her door?
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (2 June 2009):
 When I went off to college my husband (then boyfriend) and I saw each other EVERY weekend a two hour trip one way. The first year I was in the dorms so I would come home to see him. The rest of the time I had my own appartment off campus so he would come up to see me EVERY weekend.
If all of a sudden he had decided he needed space and only wanted to see me every other weekend, I would have been hearing alarm bells too. Big, screaming, roaring, blazing, flashing alarm bells.
On the other hand 4 months is not a very long time. Maybe she just needs time to intergrate your relationship into her social life. What I find kind of questionable is that she specified every other weekend like a standing appointment or something.
Maybe you could use your weekends off to find another woman who won't feel "Asphyxiated" by you. Then you can let her have all the space she needs.
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