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30-35,
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writes:Okay...so this is my problem.I have always been slightly attached to one guy (Z) that I've known for about five years now. We were friends first and then after about a year we decided to try a relationship; however, that didn't work out too well for a few certain reasons. After that happened, we were even closer than before, I was his counselor when he had girl troubles and he was my counselor as well. My parents love him to death, say we act like an old married couple, and they don't understand why we never had a long relationship. He even texts my mother to ask for advice sometimes.Even though we are just best friends and nothing more, there are still those moments when our eyes meet and it seems like we're perfect. We've talked about this before and both of us agree that maybe under different circumstances we could have worked, but i have a boyfriend now and we know that if we tried dating each other it would cause a lot of chaos. Plus, he says that he wants a relationship he isn't familiar with...something new and challenging.Not too long ago, my boyfriend and I took a small break because of a petty fight and Z and I had a night together alone and we got caught up in the moment. After this, we agreed that even though we did have strong feelings for each other, I couldn't do that to my boyfriend anymore. We decided that we would just be friends but then he kissed me again two days later. I didn't know what to make of this because it seems that one day he doesn't have feelings for me anymore and then the next day he does. Needless to say i am confused. But wait, there is more, last night, Z made out with a girl that we are both very close to and have known for a long time. Afterwards he told her that he just did it for fun and that he didn't like her in that way. She is playing it off like she is okay with it, but I think he really hurt her. Was he playing around with me too? Or did our night really mean something to him?I thought we had put these childish games behind us after high school.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 January 2008):
 I think that's a question you need to ask him. I will say though, even if he does actually feel about you the way he says, let him know, it was not nice playing with that other girls emotions. Real friends don't do that.
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