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writes:Well me and my b/f are always conversing. Right...we've had so much together and were thinking about losing both of our virginty together. I really think i love him to go all the way with him. He always tells me he's not going to rush me into doing things i don't want to.I trust him...is it bad to always talk about sex with my b/f but never do anything? Like he can finger me and everything all nice, but never past that.Is that bad?Give me some good advice please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): it's not bad at all me and my boyfriend are purty much the same way, but im 12 yrs. old, i lost my virginity at age 7, but that doesnt mean anythin. i no alot of people will tell u that ur 2 young but u no it aint there decion so do wut U want wen ur ready to lose ur virginity ull no ur ready and if u wanna lose it wit ur b/f and he aint ganna pressure u then u wait til the rite time and if it happens it happens just make sure he wears protection!!
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 I lost my virginity early in my life, like you are considering, and have never regretted it. Thing is, I've never thought of sex as something to wait until marriage for, or as something to consider a "big deal." And while I'm definitely not saying thinking of sex in those ways is wrong, I know a lot of people do, it's just not how I was. It comes down to your own personal feelings on the matter, and your security with your boyfriend. I cared a great deal about my first, and we went on to have quite a long relationship. In the end it's up to you, if you feel you are ready...you will know that you're ready. It's alright to be nervous your first time, everyone is. Just don't rush into it, and make sure you two talk it through entirely...protection being the most important thing!
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reader, bobalu +, writes (25 April 2008):
 My opinion is if u have second thoughts about it maybe u should wait alittle while before u start having sex. There's nothing wrong with just goin to 2nd base. That's peefectly fine. If u guys want maybe u guys can have oral, hey just an opinion u don't have to if u don't want to. Just remember to ALWAYS USE A CONDOM . Try humpin g ^_^. Like don't put it in u just put the penis on ur vag and just like rub on each other, feels good. Well sorry if I didn't help =( bye bye ^_^
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 My immediate reaction is that you are far too young to be considering it.
But it's never that simple, and the decision is yours - no one can stop you if that's what you've decided to do.
A few things to think about before you rush into it:
Have you thought properly about contraception?
Suppose your relationship doesn't work out - and very few that start as young as yours do last more than a few years - have you thought how losing your virginity now might affect any future relationship?
There's far more to sex than the act of intercourse - have you considered that actually the "everything all nice" as you put it might be enough for the moment? I should add to that, I still frequently find the "everything all nice" in its infinite variations to be far more enjoyable than the act itself - you might well be disappointed!
Most important of all: why are you asking the question here? If you aren't absolutely sure, and I do mean ABSOLUTELY sure, then you aren't ready. The first time is wonderful, even when it's disappointing (if that makes any sense), and it's worth waiting for until you are completely certain the time is right. It would be horrible to look back and say "I wish I had waited" - you don't get a second chance at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Well if you trust him enough and don't think you'll regret it later then do whatever you feel is right.
He obviously loves you if he says he doesnt want to rush you. It shows he care and doesn't really mind what your desicion is. Which is really good :).
I don't think its terrible if you talk about sex and never do anything. Fingering and handjobs are a nice level to stay at for a while.
If you are going to go through with this, remember to wear condoms. You don't want to pregnant at an age like this.
But lastly, if you have to ask if you're ready to lose your virginity then chances are your not.
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reader, Jmo +, writes (25 April 2008):
 i Know a lot of people are going to tell you that you're too young (and you probably are). But if you're truly ready to have sex, you wouldn't have these reservations about going through with the act. Go with your gut.
-Jmo
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