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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I had been dating a guy for a year and everything was going fine. And suddenly he stopped receiving my calls or replying to my texts. After continuously texting he replied and said he didnt want to hurt me but he needed space and time.The next day he again said the he was sorry and he loved me.Again the next day when I texted him he said he wanted time to think.He said a lot of hurtful things and I stopped texting him and the he again texted me the next day saying sorry and that he was not himself lately and that he loved me. After that I tried contacting him but he didn't reply for 5 days and after 5 days he suddenly texted me when he had some work with me and its been 2 days now and again no contact. I have been texting him but he's not replying. I am not able to understand his behaviour. What does he really want? What should I do.? I love him very much.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 Sounds to me like he is playing mind games, he probably wants to be with other girls over the summer but wants to keep you on a string in case none off them want to be with him after the holidays. You deserve better, if he loved you he would have made an effort to see you in the last month.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 June 2017):
 Oh so now that it's vacation time he REALLY can't be bothered with you...
Sorry, OP
I'd block this one and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): We study in the same college so we see each other everyday. However the college is closed for Summer vacation so I haven't seen him for a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): We are actually studying in the same college so we see each other everyday. However there's vacation going on right now so I haven't seen him for a month.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2017):
My guess?
He is interested in someone else and while (maybe low key) pursuing HER you are kept on the backburner. JUST in case, the other girl doesn't work out.
He isn't HAPPY with you as his partner. If he was he wouldn't be needing all these "breaks" from you.
DO yourself a favor and ACCEPT that he isn't as into you and you are into him and END it. Wish him well, and BLOCK/DELETE his number and MOVE on.
Right now he is putting MINIMUM effort into your relationship. Some days he can't even be BOTHERED to put ANY effort in. He is stringing you along while looking for your replacement... Aren't you WORTH more than his sad little crumbs?
How often do you two see each other in person?
He is OCCASIONALLY texting you and saying stupid crap like "I love you" but words are cheap, his actions how JUST how little he ACTUALLY loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017): I know your feelings are hurt. Try to be strong and do not ever text him first. He sends a text after waiting five days so you wait at least three days to reply. This is not a game
you are respecting yourself, your time, and your emotions. He will either reach out to you in person or he will drift off. Either way you must respect yourself and behave in a way that makes you proud of yourself.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (23 June 2017):
 You are putting too much hope in this person. He isn't that bothered about you. If he really liked you he would be kicking down brick walls to spend time in your company. Just cool it or you will end up looking ridiculous. Sorry but that's how I read it. He is playing you.
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