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writes:Sorry if this ends up being long. So, I've been in an ongoing issue for the past month or so. My boyfriend cheated on me(more info on past post). We did discuss it over and over and over again. He felt like a complete dill hole(which he should have). He was crying and telling me how much I mean to him. And everyday he said sorry, and said if he could take it back he would. Me and him have been together for over 3 years, and before this we never had any problems like this. The girl was actually a mutual friend that was practically throwing herself at him. I am not a "once a cheater, always a cheater" kind of person. I've seen others work from a setback like this. We did decide that he should move out back to his mom's place for a while. So, that we can give each other time to clear our heads and so I can see if this is really something I want. But, now that he is gone, I miss him like crazy. He lives only down the road so, it is really easy to see each other. But we have put in some guidelines. We are trying to only see each other about 3 or 4 times a week, to give each other space. We go on dates and hang out one on one. And the times we have together are great. It feels like the first time we fell in love again. But when I'm not with him, I just wonder if we are doing the right thing. We both want it to work, but we both know also that there is a chance that it won't. Are we doing the right thing? Or should I just call it quits now?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Listen to your heart and go where it tells you . Love can overcome all sins.
Don't box in yourself with those self righteous rules.
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reader, shannon222 +, writes (24 May 2010):
shannon222 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to all that did answer. I appreciate you taking the time. So, me and him have not seen each other for a few days now and I am missing him like crazy. Sometimes, I think I can't handle it and want to call him. I know I shouldn't... but it's extremely hard. He did call me today just to say that he missed me and loved me. We did decide that we were officially on a break, and he swore that he wouldn't sleep with anyone else. But should I believe him? I want to... but it's so hard :(
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reader, Lakisha +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Let him go if he cheated on u cause if he loved u u wouldn't have done it find u someone else
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reader, LaBellefox +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Hi there i think you aare dong the right thing. It is great that you are separated. this tells him you wont tolerate being disrespected and hurt etc etc. I think you should continue to take things slow. I think you are wise to keep your mind open to the possibility there are millions of men out there that would love to be with you and that would not cheat on you. It is nearly impossible to look at your relationship in a wide broader view, as an outsider or even someone who loved you would but pretedn this is your best friend we are talking about what would she advise you or how would you advise her. she would point out your attributes, his short comings and the reality of your emotions feelings for each other. I will tell you one more thing: thoughts create emotions so if you want to cotrol your emotions, think only certain thoughts, ok? hope this helps!
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reader, Carbar329 +, writes (20 May 2010):
I think you are doing the exact right thing. You just need to give each other some space while still thinking but still being friends to see if it's really worth it. I really think you should give him another chance. He learned from his mistake and I'm sure if really gives you another try you and him both should put the last behind. There is always another chance at love no matter what te cause. Don't give up on each other because of one stupid mistake. Hope I can help!!! Good luck to you!
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