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writes:Hey allOk I hve been with my boyfriend for the past three years, we have been tru a hell of a lot together but the problem is we cant seem to really make a go off things!!We really love each other and when its good its brilliant but when things are bad we just have a massive argument bout stuff in the past and break up and wont speak for weeks!! This mite last for couple of weeks and then we're back together and acting like we're loves young dream again!!A lot of stuff happend in the past, trust issues are a big problem in our relationship!!Last summer we broke up for 2 months because I found out he as lying to me bout stuff in his past, I tried dating someone else but could not stop thinking about my bf so we got back together but after this we keep breaking up for bout a week and then were back together again talking bout moving in and things like that!!Are we a joke?! Should we end things?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Ya I know what your saying and since he's opened up to me iv started to trust him again!! I know he loves me and would do anything for me, just wana forget the last year and start a fresh, just hope were strong enough....
I dont agree with what the other person is saying, you cant just forget about someone just like that and i consider myself a hard women that doesnt get messed around but I dont wana leave this relationship and regret in a few years that I didnt try everything to make it work!! I mean is'nt it tru when they say that relationships dont always run smooth?!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 I wouldn't call it a joke, but not a very good relationship. First of all you two have MASSIVE communications failures over and over. Not good.
You two need to either sit down and work through ALL the kinks and LEARN how to actually communicate, right now you two "think" that fighting and arguing is a way of communcation, it is, but not a useful way. Nothing is RESOLVED.
If you two can't get past the trust and communcation issues it is pretty much doomed.
Trust doesn't come back over night either, that too is something you need to work on.. together.
There is more to a relationship then great make-up sex...
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Yes it is a joke, you can't have a relationship without trust! It would be like a mansion with no foundations! Let go of each other and then you can begin the process of getting over it, x
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