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writes:Today wasn't exactly wonderful for me. My birthday is coming up this week, I'm so excited, and my one friend's birthday is the day after mine, so our friends said that they were going to throw a party for both of us, which was great because I haven't had anyone celebrate my birthday in YEARS.So today I was getting ready to leave school and I was talking to my friends. My one friend, Abby, said "Hey! My birthday is this week!" (Once again, her birthday is the day after mine.) And all my friends said that they were all going to take her out for dinner on HER birthday, they completely disregarded mine. They were talking about how great it was that she's turning 18 (so am I.) and just blew me off. They did the same thing last year. On my birthday only ONE person said happy birthday, no one else. then the next day all my friends decorated Abby's locker, gave her gifts, and every single one of them said Happy Birthday. Like, I'm not usually one to care about this, but, seriously, when it comes to friends, shouldn't they, like, support meAnd they, usually, are good friends. Just not when it comes down to things like this.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mickkiee  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Can i point out the best possible thing for you to do is to rise above it. Honestly. I was bullied by a few girls at one point in my life it would have been small things like running away or not talking to me for no reason.One day i cried and was asked why do i always cry about them? Which made me think why do i waste time and effort over people who really don't care about me? So i then built my confidence up and got in with a new group of friends. And in a way i'm glad it happened because i gained real friendship out of it. Seriously what you can do is to shock them all.And although it will be painful to do is to in fact ignore her birthday, though actually wish her happy birthday get her a card pass it off as Happy Birthday.But don't fuss around her. Honestly girls can be cruel and mean whereas boys just get on with a few punches and thats it. But all the best to you let me know how it goes Keep the head up: Mickkiee x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): popularity is like a currency in schools. In the real world its money. The people who tend to work hard in school are poor on popularity but tend to do better in the real world. I trust you know what you need to do to get through school. Keep yourself to yourself, be yourself. study hard. Get through it as best you can and you will be twice the person those girls are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice!
@fi the tree:
It justs makes me sad that I mentioned- no, REMINDED them all day that my birthday was on thursday. I shouldn't have to do that. In fact, I think tomorrow when I go back to school I'm going to say in every sentence, "Birthday, MY birthday, TOMORROW." I might as well do that seeing as they won't remember anyway.
@Mickkiee
It hurts though that they go through all the trouble to decorate her locker and give her gifts, but on my birthday I'm lucky if I get anyone to say something. I don't even know why they like her so much, she's kind of a huge jerk. If no one says anything to me on my birthday then I'm going to treat her birthday like a normal day and I'll say, "Oh, today's your birthday? Huh, I usually remember your birthday being after mine. But my birthday wasn't yesterday, 'cause nobody said anything, so I guess it's not your birthday either."
@UKLifeCoach:
Girls are mean, this is proof! But my friends only care about who supplies the alcohol, and who supplies the party house. This girl supplies the house, who do you think they appreciate more? Plus not to mention she's a rich snob and has a mansion and parents who don't care. And she'll be so nice to me in school but never invites me to her parties when all my friends are invited. Rude, much? So, maybe that's why my friends like her more. But it's so hard to find other friends. The only other friends I have are older guys, and they're, like, in college so I HAVE to have school friends otherwise I'm just fresh meat for bullies. I dunno, this whole situation makes me angry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): There is nothing you can do. Girls can be so mean cant they. I dont know what it is about girls but guys are a lot more up front with people and not much bitchyness goes on.
I guess you could talk to them but who is to say that they wont be two faced.
I think you should turn to some other friends because you could feel really bad about yourself and loose confidence and your zest in life over them and its not worth it. Find something or someone else to spend time with.
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reader, Mickkiee +, writes (6 June 2011):
To be honest thet really don't sound like true freinds. Put yourself in an onlookers shoes ... if you seen this happen what would you tell the other girl. To be honest i would ask yourslef how much do you value their friendship if alot then say to them how you feel if not hang with some other people becuase you sound as if you deserve true and respectful friends. After all friendship is a two way street.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (6 June 2011):
 Personally i think you should give them a damn good talking to!!! How bloody rude of them!!
If they don't seem that bothered by what you have to say, then go and find some new friends...
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