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anonymous
writes:I dont know who to believe...its complicated,about a year back my friend(c) became pregnant, she then miscarried a few months later...H is currently 4-5 months pregnant.There's 4 of us, me, C, H and L btw.A few weeks ago, L came to me after discovering about H claiming she is pregnant and soon getting an abortion. Now C is saying the same thing and claims she had a miscarriage yesterday.But here's where i'm confusedC, when she WAS preg first time wanted and grieve for her baby. but last week she told me and then was smoking AND drinking...which made me think was she even pregnant?I'm 90% sure she's lying and i dont know what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): Thanks for the update. That was very kind of you, and thank you for not getting angry, because my first answer was very sharp and not vey nice.
I wasn't angry with you, I was angry with your friends. The fact that you wrote to Dear Cupid, proved that you had more sense than them, and you choose to get sensible advice before doing anything stupid.
I was angry with them. These kind of girls frighten me. They go around talking about sex and babies, and other girls feel inadequate and think they should have sex and babies too. I'm glad your more sensible than this.
What I should have said was to ignore them, cause as you've found out, it's just a stupid phase, and they go on to do something else. I'm just frightened for the girls that don't have your sense, and will listen to them and get themselves in trouble.
Anyway, good luck. They're lucky to have you in their life. To tell the truth, I think your a nice friend, they should be glad to have somebody sensible like you in their lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the better answer - its appriciated.
Anyway these friends the whole pregnancy thing has died down now. Maybe it was just a phase, they are silly girls and I dont fit in, im more mature then them, although im the youngest of us all.
But they like coming to me for advice. I am an agony aunt on this website and I am to my friends and family. I guess I will never know if they were or weren't pregnant.
Ah well thanks anyway for the advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Sorry Ms 16-17 anonymous, Helpfull advice coming up. Your friends are idiots, they are playing games with their bodies, their fertility, and their reputation. They are also messing with your head. You need to find something more interesting to do which will help you build a happy sucessfull future for you and your boyfriend.These girls have nothing interesting or postive to show you. I suggest you decrease contact with them and find new friends who have more positive hobbies and interests.If you want to know if their telling the truth, then ask them. They will either tell you the truth or lie to you. But my guess is that this will make the situation worse and they will react badly, and probably start talking about you. As I said, I do not think much of your friends, or the little childish games they play, but their your friends and you know them best. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt isn't me playing this game im nothing to do with it thankyou. I'm actually happy in the serious relationship i have adn me adn my fiance are waiting until we are married for a few years. its my friends and i dont know whether to believe them
I as in ME did not want nor need a lecture i wanted some information on how i could go about asking them all about this, IF i could.
Maybe you should try posting HELPFUL answers rather then lecturing someone who needs help to make your self feel better and making the poster (aka me) feel bad for something which is not my fault.
Thankyou
(any helpful answers are happily accepted =])
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Why don't you and your friends stop playing stupid games and find something more positive to do with your life. I'm sorry for being so rude, but children are like dogs, you can't give them back after christmas. This is a stupid game of "who's the first to become a poor single mother". Find some other friends to hang around with and do something positive with your life.
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